Infidelity is always perceived as betrayal and personal tragedy. Regardless of the fact that a couple will find enough strength and desire to glue everything together and adjust or disintegrate, the adulter hurts. And both. Men who ask themselves "why wives change" can cite as an example great works of literature, movies that represent women in an impartial light. They can begin to look for the enemy in a "vile female nature," which is organically incapable of fidelity or love unselfishly. Or in the images of temptress Lilith, courtesans of Messalina - such vamp, subordinate men and depriving them of their will. But much more often the question should be put in another way: not "why do wives change", but what in a particular union led to infidelity.
It is much easier to "switch arrows" to another. Often without understanding, without understanding the basic principles of female psychology, deceived (Or consider themselves as such), husbands wring their hands, load revolvers, write lampoons, because they can not understand why wives change. They sincerely expect from their companions purity, integrity, the ability to indulge and satisfy all their needs, as well as sexuality and attractiveness. But - in moderation, only for the husband. And quite sincerely they, not guessing why the wives are changing really, believe that the matter is in their social status, money, debauchery or something else material and base. In these reflections and conclusions they completely overlook the most important: infidelity occurs where there is no satisfaction with the relations as a whole. After all, for the union to be strong and reliable, and the two feel themselves as if they were created for each other, not only psychological compatibility is necessary. It is also necessary to have a common vision of the purpose, the meaning of life. Need attention to the needs of the partner, and most often not financial and not material, but psychological. If the wife changes, she, as a rule, feels unhappy in the marriage. Her needs are either constantly mocked, or pushed into the background. The mother-in-law also pours oil on the fire: "He dressed you like a doll," "He provides the family." But at the same time the most important thing is forgotten, for which people bind themselves by the bonds of marriage. They stop giving each other attention and support. Especially acute are women. If men motivate their infidelity most often with a need for sexual diversity, then research into why their wives change shows that they tend to lack love and attention as a rule. The acute shortage of communication, tenderness, spontaneity in relations with the spouse pushes them to seek recognition and approval from the outside.
This, by the way, is very skillfully used by all kinds of alfonso and professional seducers. Knowing the need of every woman for attention intended only for her, in approval and admiration, they are masterly able to manipulate the feelings of their victim. Woe to that naive who will fall for the bait of such a seeker of easy gain. But often the woman's frustration in marriage and, as a consequence, her sensitivity to any praise is so strong that she falls in love without a memory even to the one who only plays it. Wives are most often changed for emotional reasons. And only husbands, if they really love, are capable of preventing infidelity with their attention and caress.