The rules of Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider: "How to marry a man of your dreams"

It can be safely asserted that the question of how to marry a man of his dreams, torments most of the female population. It does not matter how popular today is free relations, the rejection of conventions and civil marriage. Whatever it was, the marriage remains a recognition of the seriousness of the intentions of both spouses and the ability to take their life responsibly.

Relationship rules: ignorance does not free from consequences

Significant progress, facilitating our life today, was the absolute voluntary nature of the marriage relationship. After all, now neither the decision of the parents, nor the pressure of the national culture, nor even pregnancy can automatically lead to the wedding. In this aspect, a man's desire to connect his fate with his beloved woman is doubly valuable.

However, this freedom, like many attractive things, has the opposite side. Many girls feel slightly confused, having lost their orientation in the form of traditional norms of behavior and not being able to rely on the advice and guidance of women of previous generations. It would seem that everything has become simpler, but it is not so: everything has changed. The rules of the game in the relationship have changed, and they need to know in order to win, and not to slip onto the roadside of social life.

One can argue with the statement that the natural course of development of relations between men and women needs to be adjusted, but this is not a passionate resort novel. Here at stake is a long-term partnership, it is this word that serves as an excellent synonym for marriage.

To understand the nature of their desires and the principles of male psychology, girls and women need the help of experienced counselors. For more than 20 years, this responsibility has been successfully carried out by Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider, who wrote the famous book "Rules. How to marry a man of your dreams. "

For whom rules are created

First of all, this book is worth reading to girls who are eager to create a family. According to the authors themselves, their rules are intended to help in building long-term, full-fledged and strong relations. If a girl hesitates about her goals or prefers a simpler model of relationships with men, she does not need to follow the recommendations.

The rules of Ellen Fein were developed after years of study and analysis of the lives of many women. Based on the information received in the course of the research, the writer formulated 35 items, which in the clearest form formulate instructions for behavior for girls.

High efficiency

Despite the fact that the book was written and published in 1995, its relevance does not decrease. Moreover, Ellen Fein's rules are checked by a large number of women who read her work. Reviews say that the rules work.

The book has been translated into foreign languages and has withstood a huge number of publications. Almost all major American publications have written reviews of it, and authors are regularly invited as guests to various television shows.

After understanding the principles and patterns of relations between men and women, the authors helped celebrities such as Oprah Winfrey, Beyonce, Blake Lovely, Keith Middleton and others. Quite often in Oprah's studio there are quotes from the book and the rules of Ellen Fein.

Sherry Schneider and her partner have twice been invited guests of this popular TV presenter.

The main essence of the recommendations

If you try to compress the meaning of the whole book in one phrase, it would sound like advice for the fairer sex: "Do not lose your head, find your strengths and show them to the man." In this case, the decisive role belongs to the call not to succumb to one's weaknesses and not to turn a man into a girl-friend. The rules of Ellen Fein are based on the fact that strong men (after all, these are the best husbands) are hunters by nature. The conquest is in their blood, and they are not interested in the prey that comes before they go in search of it.

Each has its own role

The book "Rules. How to marry a man of your dreams "helps women become a" welcome prey "and properly organize the process of" hunting ". After all, worthy men choose for themselves only the best representatives from their environment and make every effort to attract their attention. The process of conquering and overcoming obstacles to men is extremely important, since it gives the goal priority, value and value. Women, who are alien to such a philosophy, frighten off potential husbands precisely by excluding the element of conquest in relations or trying to facilitate it for their chosen ones. The book "Rules" reveals this and other similar mistakes of female psychology and suggests concrete measures for their avoidance.

Categorical and strict rules

Some readers complain that the rules are too strict, and sticking to them is quite difficult. The answer can be the council to reconsider priorities and find motivation. After all, the rules of Ellen Fein are written for those who are in a serious relationship. This does not imply a couple years of coexistence on a common living space.

Here it is a question of partnership for decades. Clarification! On a full-fledged partnership: mutual respect, mutual development, financial well-being, a harmonious sexual life, the birth and upbringing of children and the preservation of interest to each other in the future. This is hard work, because to drop your hands and go with the flow is much easier, and the deplorable results of such behavior are well known to many.

How to create an image of an interesting woman

The book "Rules" does not call to lie and try to imagine yourself as another person, she recommends to understand yourself, find and correctly present your dignity. The main idea is the preservation of a certain tension, an understatement between a man and a woman. Many recommendations are devoted to how to properly maintain the necessary distance. For example, rule 3 primarily teaches you not to waste effort on someone who is not interested. But this is almost the most common female error.

Among other things (moderate expression of wit, good mood and elementary politeness) the most important advice is to be easy in communication and not become a problem for men. Rule 3 and others, set forth in the book, appeal to those women who are taken off the bat just to describe their adversities and problems.

Writers offer to limit communication by phone to ten-minute conversations, and the number of meetings - three per week.

All these tough at first glance recommendations are designed to create an image of an interesting, active, educated, constantly occupied with affairs and in demand women. According to the authors, it is this that successful men want to see their wives .

Is there life after the wedding?

Using well-deserved popularity and receiving many letters, Ellen and Sherry were able to analyze a huge number of real stories. On their basis was written the second book entitled "Rules of an intelligent wife."

Writers paid attention to the fact that their readers, who applied the previously described method and rules, were able to get engaged or get married. However, at this stage of the questions, even more. How to behave with the groom and husband? Is it possible to relax and stop the implementation of strict rules? How not to make mistakes and not to spoil what has already been built?

These aspects are covered in the new book. It is designed for young wives and is aimed at maintaining interest in the woman's personality under changed conditions.