Means of raising a child and the role of a personal example in this process

It's nice to hear when a grown-up child says: "The most joyful memories of my childhood are related to the trips my father took me to." I liked it when he read something to me, told me something and taught something. "Of course, not Of all, and not always childhood was carefree and bright, but this mainly depends not so much on how high the material welfare of the family in which the child grew, how much from what methods of upbringing they used parents.

In our age of information technology, you can talk a lot and long about the means of education, which parents and teachers use. But one thing is clear, if they do not affect the heart of the baby, then there will be no benefit from them. In recent decades, some traditional methods of upbringing have been added to such traditional methods as oral instruction, the printed word, aesthetic influence. This, for example, the method of free education or, as it is also called, the method of permissiveness. How good or bad it is - it makes no sense, because they are all effective and good in their own way. The method of free education implies the absence of any framework that limits the freedom of the child. Then the only means is an information avalanche, which falls on the fragile psyche of the baby. Will the child cope with such a load? Will this be useful?

In order for the means of education to bring the necessary benefits, they must meet a specific goal. To do this, it is important to reflect on this question: "Who do I want to see my child - a weak-willed egoist or a person successfully overcoming difficulties?" A crumb who remembers the joyful moments of childhood and the instruction of his father or mother can become a successful and happy person. At the same time, instruction and instruction are powerless if the words of parents are at variance with Affairs. Thus, a personal example is the most effective and most difficult method of raising children.

To know what to strive for, it is always good to have a worthy role model. And that the means of upbringing were successful, it is important that parents themselves sincerely believe in what their child is learning. In the Bible, there are wonderful lines: "The words that I command you today must be in your heart." Instigate them to your children, talk about them when you are in the house and when you walk on the road "(Deuteronomy 6: 6) There is one very important principle in these words about which parents should remember: what you are teaching must first be in your heart.

Formation of personality in the process of education in children is continuous, and Because the more attention is paid to communication with the child, the better.

Very good, when mom and dad are looking for an opportunity to spend more time with the child, the kids feel it well, which means that they feel that they are important and that they are loved.

In addition, if the child is not forgotten to praise, this will contribute to the fact that he will develop a positive self-esteem.

Only do not go to extremes, if the schoolchild has not screwed up, he should be punished, but do it so that he understands - he is punished because they love.

The framework that parents establish and the means of education should shape the child's sense of security, not limitation.

This is the main task that faces all parents and teachers who take responsibility for the upbringing of the kids, and therefore for their future.