Traditions of kinship: daughter-in-law - who is this?

As soon as a girl marries, she gets another additional title - "daughter-in-law". Who it is is easy to understand, but there is enough confusion in this matter. Girls get angry and resist, considering the nickname offensive. Why?

For whom a woman is a daughter-in-law

Dal's dictionary provides a fairly detailed definition of this concept. Snoha is the wife of a son for his father. Only the father, that is, the head of the clan, can call a new member of the family such a word. This has some historical roots. The word "daughter-in-law", it is believed, comes from the "demolish". A woman should patiently listen to what the head of the family wishes her to say, do any kind of work, sometimes endure and beatings. Maybe women, even if they do not know about the traditional meaning of the word, feel its meaning, and they consider it insulting. Even the sound itself is associated with something tough, if not cruel. Say aloud the word "daughter-in-law". Who invented this and why? In those days, when every piece of bread was extracted by hard work, for the genus the extra mouth was a burden. But the continuation of life was required. Here is a new member of the family who was not capable of hard work, but performed, so to speak, a reproductive function, and began to be called dismissive - a daughter-in-law.

Modern Traditions

I must say that now people do not particularly think about the correct definition of family ties. To the question: "Who is this - who is it?" - almost half of the women can not answer. Now the ability to build pleasant relationships is more appreciated, and not akin to kinship. So, in many families, a woman is kindly called a bride, and not a daughter-in-law. Naturally, in the event that initially she showed herself as a loving wife and a good mother. For such a woman arrange surprises and holidays, perceived as a native person, and not as an addition to his son.

Holidays for your beloved daughter-in-law

Friendly families will not refuse to organize a wonderful merry holiday for any member of the family. In accordance with folk traditions, the daughter-in-law should organize the birthday of a daughter-in-law. After all, only he has the right to make her "demolish" everything in the world! Let it be not beatings and reproaches, but jokes and fun! In the holiday scenario, be sure to include a section with a story about who your daughter-in-law is for you. Who will do it - it does not matter! The main thing is that as a result, the "uncircumcised" relative feels herself very dear and beloved. You can find simple and sincere words in which each of the relatives and friends expresses their warmth and love. Then the title of "daughter-in-law" will not be offensive, but pleasant.

Funny congratulations

As you know, joint fun and joy unite people. This should not be forgotten when you are preparing a birthday greeting for your daughter-in-law. Funny surprises will always be right. In the case of harmonious relations, all will be pleased with mild humor. If the family can not accept a new member in any way, then a rough joke can smooth out the roughness and roughness in communication. For example, a father-in-law can beat an old tradition, according to which no one could talk to a daughter-in-law until he gave her a gift. And if the same gift follows, then the woman is a talker! You can buy two identical things and present them during the evening.