The role of women in the life of men. A woman is a mother. My beloved woman. Wife and daughter

The role of women in the life of men has long been the object of attention in psychology. And not in vain. The roles of the sexes were distributed over millions of years - in the process of evolution. And the basis for the classification was not patriarchy or non-recognition of potential, but physical capabilities, body reserves and body features. But in the modern world, everything has changed. But nevertheless, psychology takes place in considering this issue.

Mama

So, you should start with the main one. Many girls, especially wives, with the phrase "Mom - the most important woman in the life of a man" involuntarily roll their eyes. They can be understood! After all, a man, having bound himself by the bonds of marriage, forms a new family, his own. And, accordingly, the wife, he must pay most of his attention. But this he himself must understand, and his mother, if she is an intelligent woman. And not in supremacy is the question. It is unreasonable to prioritize between a woman who has given birth and brought up and a beloved. After all, they have different functions.

A woman mother is engaged in upbringing. She introduces her son to the world around him, forms an attitude toward the beautiful half of humanity, instills certain values and skills that will be useful to him in life.

There is one theory. Although it can be called, rather, a philosophy. It is called: "Three women in the life of a man." And my mother - the first. There are a lot of arguments on this topic. With the first boy becomes courageous. With it, it remains forever - with your thoughts, feelings and an elusive connection that you can not see, but it is palpable. The first is always in the soul, in life and in the mind. Every man has different. But whatever mother she was, she was the First.

In Adult Life

As long as the son is small, the mother woman is turning him into a full member of society. But he grows up, and in life there is another - a beloved, the other half, to which often his mother beforehand, even without being familiar, begins to treat badly. Why? There is a sense of ownership. A woman believes that the son is her man, completely and completely. She raised him and he belongs to her. Of course, this is not so. He is a separate person, a person. And when a son marries - this does not mean that his mother is "taken away". He just founds his family.

In the worst case, the mother-in-law will spoil the life of the newlyweds, trying in every possible way to take part in their marriage, believing that she knows best how. In this case, care is placed on the shoulders of the man. If he can gently dot the "i" - well. No? Then in the family he will not be able to be an independent and responsible man. He will always try to please his mother and justify himself before his beloved. And this is the direct path to war between the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law.

A smart mother woman will not break into the apartment of her son and his wife, do cleaning there, cook borscht and give advice on personal relationships. Her head will not even come up with the idea that her son was "taken away". On the contrary, she will do everything to ensure that his relations are formed happily.

Second half

The most important role of women in the life of a man is assigned to his beloved, who gives him special energy, is for him a muse and inspiration. When a woman appears in a man's life, he begins to understand that he is capable of such actions, the accomplishment of which previously seemed impossible for him.

And it's very important that she is just like that. Not a servant who would wash and clean. Not the "second mother" - eternally baking about its safety and cooking borsch. That person, in which the man with a gasp says: "This is my favorite woman!", Should support the fire of love, constantly throwing there a kind of "firewood". Show life from its beautiful side, to call for adventures and bright emotions, to seek joint entertainment, bringing joy. Each such trifle is a small detail of a large puzzle called "happy relationship".

Reference to social needs

Psychology is an interesting science. One of the objects of her study is interpersonal relations. The need that determines the social essence of man. In this case, men.

"My beloved woman" is that person who will satisfy his social and some physical needs in full. And in view of there is not only an intimate affinity. Social needs are much broader. It is love, understanding, support, manifestation of one mind, respect, loyalty, devotion, attachment. And all of the above should go from the heart, the soul, and not because "so necessary."

This role of women in the life of a man is not one-sided. He, too, must do all of the above. If the couple is missing something, maybe the relationship is not ideal? However, now it's not about that.

Marriage

The role of women in the life of men has been described only briefly. In fact, in this topic there are many more nuances.

A wife is a more solid status than a beloved. And there are countless books and reflections about the fact that being a wife is difficult. Many, indeed, think so. But people tend to complicate everything, and then complain.

Just need to understand something. The value of a woman in the life of a man who chose her as his companion is very important. Remember at least an oath in the registry office. She is given for a reason. To be together in poverty, in wealth, in health, and in illness - are these only words? No. This is what determines the role of women as a companion, assistant and ally of a man. The same goes for him. The essence of the marriage is that each of the partners is ready at any time to come to the rescue and support - in any case, whatever happens. It is a pity that many people forget about this.

Daughter

Another role that matters. And no matter how strange it may sound, now we are talking about the fact that every woman for her husband is a daughter-wife. Surprisingly, many call it another of her roles.

The daughter-wife is the one next to which the husband becomes a real man, overthrowing the mountains for the sake of satisfying her whims. A woman who knows how to show weakness at the right moment and ask for cares causes special feelings in him. Next to such a defenseless and fragile creature, he is able to feel like a superman. This is necessary not only for her, but for him as well - to cherish self-esteem. A woman is only important to remember at such moments: "daughter" not only asks for help, but also listens.

Friends

Whoever said anything, but the husband and wife should be able to be friends. Such relationships are based on common interests and interests, but also on trust and sincerity. After all, who is a friend? Those who are able to experience all the joys and sorrows of their fellow comrade in the way he feels them. There is one good phrase: "Friends are a family, which each of us chooses himself." The husband is already a native person. And when he is also a friend - this is twice as good.

The role of a mistress

It is often underestimated. Women who fiercely insist that sex is not the main thing in a relationship, either sad husbands or changing. Sex - if not the main component of marriage, then one of the main. This is not only a social need, but also a biological one. But from the latter point of view, one can not approach this topic. Because this is also an opportunity to develop your sensuality, to become closer to your partner and bring more vivid impressions to life. If the wife copes with the roles of "daughter", "wife", "adviser" and "mistress" (which is not so difficult) - you can see that her husband literally blooms and reciprocates.