The husband drinks - what to do?

"What should I do when my husband drinks?" - millions of women ask themselves this question and often do not find an answer to it. Meanwhile, the trouble with alcoholism is that not only the drinker suffers, but all of his surroundings suffer from it. When a husband drinks, the woman most often assumes the role of savior: she tries to educate her husband and appeal to his conscience, save and pull him out of various difficult situations, cover and justify to his superiors. If this does not help, moves to threats, hides money, expels drinking companions, promises to file for divorce. But the husband drinks, as before. By this time, the woman is already so drawn into the problem that she develops a condition that psychologists call co-dependency. Suffering co-dependency, a person forgets about himself, his needs, interests, health, children. Everything is subordinated to one problem: the struggle against drunkenness. The main mistake in this tactic is that the woman tries to reach the consciousness of her drinking husband, forgetting that alcoholism is a disease that requires the same qualified treatment as all other ailments. After all, do not you persuade a person not to cough, if he has bronchitis? In this case, you will call the doctor and will treat the patient according to his prescriptions. Treatment of alcoholism - this is also the case of a doctor - an expert in narcology. Therefore, the first thing to do when a husband drinks: ask a specialist for advice. And the doctor will explain that the main condition for the treatment of alcoholism is the desire of the alcoholic himself to get rid of this addiction. This is the main and necessary condition for the successful fight against such a serious illness as alcohol dependence. To treat in absentia or secretly drinking it is impossible. Therefore, relatives should work on the motivation of the drinker: to look for painful points that can force him to give up alcohol. For one, this can be work and career, material well-being, for another - family and children, for the third - health. Help to find such motivation is capable of a specialist - a psychotherapist. The main thing is to get the consent of the drinker to visit a narcologist and begin treatment. However, we must remember that the treatment of alcoholism is a long and complex process, requiring great endurance and patience, both the patient himself and his environment. The doctor-narcologist appoints a complex treatment, which includes the use of medicines and necessarily psychotherapy. It will require the help of a psychotherapist and a loved one drinking: first, it will help to develop the right behavior, and secondly, to cope with codependence.

One should not forget that their children suffer from adult drunkenness, they too can be co-addicted. In this case, also need the help of a psychologist or psychotherapist. In a word, it is necessary to struggle with alcoholismomo complexly and necessarily with the help of specialists.

If this is not done, the problem will be only aggravated. It must be remembered that the alcoholic suffers from anosognosia, or lack of critical evaluation to himself. Therefore, even being in the second or third stage of alcoholism, he can deny the existence of a problem and assure relatives that he himself can tie and not drink. But in practice, these generalities are only words, because it is difficult to control your behavior to a person suffering from alcohol dependence without quidified help.