Tatyana Vorobyeva, Orthodox psychologist and teacher: facts from the biography, the main principles of the upbringing of children

Tatyana Vladimirovna Vorobyova, an Orthodox teacher and psychologist, is interested not only in reading but also in seeing and listening, especially her worried stories about children's problems and the correct approach to their solution.

Life, given to childhood

Tatyana Vorobyova is an Orthodox psychologist. Her biography remains a mystery to many admirers of her techniques. When asked about where to get her books, she shrugs her shoulders: nowhere, they are still in drafts. And this despite the fact that she herself is a real encyclopedia of priceless pedagogical experience, enriched with a confident knowledge of psychology. And there is no time to write books to Tatyana.

Tatiana Vorobyova devoted her life to children and every day continues to dissolve in love for them. She gives advice on the problems of child psychology, and also participates in pedagogical discussions. Her video lectures teach parents of gentle wisdom in relation to their child.

Girl from the orphanage

It was not by accident that Tatyana Vorobyova was a psychologist. Biography helps to understand the motives of her own actions and creative discoveries.

Tatiana's first impressions of life are connected with the children's home. Therefore, she understands very well what is happening in the soul of the child, deprived of the love of mother and father, home comfort and family joys. How to help such children not to be embittered, not to close in their shell, but to create a happy and full-fledged family, which, by the way, does she have?

Now Tatyana Vorobyova can confidently say to them: "Honor your father and mother! Whatever they were, do not condemn, and in any case do not condemn, because they are given to us by God." They teach even their negative behavior. Children of alcoholics are saved by patience and forgiveness of their unfortunate mothers and dads; The father sitting in jail is already telling his fate: "Son, do not do as I do." The lesson of the orphanage, which the future psychologist carried through all life: you were hurt, but you do not be such.

"Half my life I lived among the saints"

As a professional teacher Tatyana Vorobyova was formed due to her studies with children in the kindergarten. One of the motives for choosing a place of work was that she felt need, and someone's advice: "In kindergarten they feed", - decided her fate. But then the woman realized what a happiness it was to be among the children, because up to five years they are all pure and holy.

Their sensitivity, spontaneity, sincerity and the ability to love have become a school of life for the future honored teacher of Russia.

Was engaged in Vorobyov and methodical work, there was also a service in the House of the child. Summarizing her 40-year pedagogical experience, she says: "Children are an endless lesson."

"My husband's family gave me everything"

There is nothing accidental in life, Tatyana Vorobyova is convinced. It is also not accidental that the husband's family turned out to be a school of love and family well-being for a former girl from an orphanage. She deeply respects her husband, a scientist, a theoretical physicist. There are Tatyana Vladimirovna's two adult sons, there are grandchildren. Almost half a century of experience in preserving the harmony of marital relations and the upbringing of one's own children is the material of psychological conclusions for the female teacher.

And the question of whether to tolerate, when you are betrayed in order to save the family, Tatyana Vorobyova, an Orthodox person, answers unequivocally: "You have to endure all your life: find the thread of love that holds together the union, and save it." This is the woman's vital task " . It is difficult to give her recommendations to modern women, who are accustomed to assert themselves in society, to make a career, to consider the family something inferior. And the family is a cross, a torment leading to salvation in eternal life. And in this life the advice is given by a woman - a professional of the highest standard, held both as a wife and as a mother.

"There can not be a psychologist without faith"

Pedagogical experience was received by working in the kindergarten, Tatyana Vorobyova (Orthodox psychologist). In the House of the Child she opened the whole measure of the teacher's responsibility for the souls of single children. For correct behavior, we need not only experience and love, but also knowledge of physiology, age psychology, medicine. After graduating from the university and receiving a diploma, Tatyana Vladimirovna does not stop there, because psychology is knowledge about the soul that belongs to God, and her study is not limited.

In order to properly educate, you need to know why a person came into this life. Parents, bringing up their children for worldly, terrestrial life, try to develop intelligence, business qualities, the ability to stand up for oneself. Worldly psychologists can give meanwhile the following recommendations: if your grandmother annoys you, draw her, tear and burn (rehearse how you will deal with your rivals in the future).

Tatyana Vorobyova's orthodox beliefs are that a person is born for eternity, that children are given to parents from God "on loan" and must return to Him. And the core must be the education of children's love for their parents. The latter are obliged to watch not only the words and behavior, but also their own inner feelings. And if they are burdened by a child in childhood, then, most likely, children will become for him a shameful burden in old age. To consider your child a hindrance in life is a spit to the Creator for his gift. In addition, complaining about their children, parents deprive them of their vitality, creating future losers.

"We need to understand"

To have the right to be called a psychologist and help in difficult situations related to the development of the soul, it is not enough to know the theory. Tatyana Vorobyova is a psychologist of the highest qualification category, and she became to them thanks to her pedagogical experience, harmoniously combined with theoretical calculations. Her advice is accurate and vital, even if they are not taken into account at first.

It happened one day with a girl from an orphanage. The children were going to adopt American parents. After watching a five-year-old girl, Tatyana Vorobyova came to the conclusion: you can not give her abroad. Too small a reserve of words in the native language is this child, in order to adequately express the needs of his soul. In the orphanage it was understood, but abroad, in a foreign language environment, a Russian girl, even knowing foreign words, would not be able to use them correctly to describe psychic life. The psychologist's forecast was justified five years later, when the girl, having grown up, literally fled the American family. "I do not need their food and clothes, I need to be understood," - such was the explanation of the riot.

Professional tips

Relevant are the advice of psychologist Tatyana Vorobyova that it is not necessary to get involved in the early learning of foreign languages. Neither kindergarten, nor primary school are not suitable for in-depth study of foreign language environment. The phonetic and lexical base of the native language should be formed. The child must learn to speak Russian in a clean and correct manner. Someone else's speech is best mastered at the age of 9-12 years.

She is not a supporter of schooling since she was six. And it's not about intellectual readiness. The volitional qualities of the psyche are formed mainly by seven years. At six years old, the child is difficult to force himself to obey the requirements of the teacher and school discipline. Not all children at this age have such a powerful motivation for learning as curiosity. School lessons can become torture for the six-year-old. He will simply take a whole year of childhood. But the soul does not develop from the intellect, but from the feelings that the child has time to or does not have time to experience at an early age.

Age psychology of infancy

Most of her speech at the XXIII Christmas Readings on January 22, 2015, Tatyana Vorobyeva (a teacher, psychologist) devoted herself to the problems of age-related crises and the correct behavior of her parents during these periods of development.

The first such crisis is three years. The baby is self-determined by sex. At this age, the upbringing of the qualities of a boy, a future man, and a girl begins, which will soon become a woman. For a guy, the main quality should be a sense of responsibility: the boys were born to serve the family, people close to them, the Fatherland. In girls, the fundamental quality of a woman must be laid-patience. The age of three is a deep emotional comprehension of the world. To achieve obedience from the child during this period, one must necessarily adjust to the tone of his mood.

The next revolutionary stage of development is 5 years. At this age, the formation of strong-willed qualities begins, which provides for seven years of readiness for schooling. From the child you can demand to do as it should, as it is said.

In seven years, emotionally-volitional control is formed, and the child has sufficient mental strength to restrain and guide emotions and will in the right direction (it's time to start learning activity).

Three things that need a belt

Punishment is a necessary and very subtle thing. Tatyana Vorobyova never tires of repeating that education is an intimate process, and it concerns only two people. Therefore, when the pope punishes, the mother does not have the right to interfere, and vice versa. Three offenses, which the psychologist calls self-punishing, allow the use of physical punishment.

• The child raises his hand against his parents. He should receive an immediate reprimand, the tone of which leaves no doubt about the inadmissibility of such a situation.
• The son or daughter gloats over the food in exasperation. The daily bread, given by God, is subjected to bullying by an irritated child. This must also be quickly suppressed.
• In anger the child breaks and crushes things, earned by the labor of parents. To stop the development of anger, permissiveness and emotional promiscuity, and apply a "capital punishment" belt. The psychologist warns that there is a big chasm between punishment and torment of the child - parental motivation. You can beat a child, loving him, for his own admonition, but you can be annoyed to put some anger on someone. The latter is unacceptable.

"Let your computer break down"

A computer is a trouble with three exclamation marks. Its virtual reality as a smoke cloud obscures the living world, taking away the joy of being from children. He carries a miserable speech, reduced to computer slang, empties the soul, worsens memory, extinguishes interest in everything that is not connected with computer games.

Dependence on the computer is equated to drug addiction and is treated with medication, because children in the 4th class already become psychoneurotic who run into hysterics if they are deprived of this idol. The surrogate of the computer world kills sons and daughters. Teacher Tatyana Vorobyova deeply worried about the future of Russian children and does everything in her power to make it bright.