How to withstand psychological pressure? How to resist psychological pressure

Psychological pressure is the influence exerted by one person on other people with a view to changing their opinions, decisions, judgments, or personal attitudes. It is carried out far from the most honest and correct, in terms of humanity, ways. But, unfortunately, everyone can face it.

Compulsion

The psychological pressure can manifest itself in various forms. Coercion is one of those. This is the most blatant and unprecedented attempt to influence the other person. This method is inherently illegal use of mental violence.

From the side its application looks like an informational impact on a person's consciousness. Which can be accompanied by threats of physical violence. But these are extreme cases.

Most often, the moral abuser operates with other "trumps". It can be his power, money, influential status, compromising data. Some try to destroy their victim. They say such words, which blot out the dignity of a person and trample down in the dirt his confidence in their abilities. A similar character can be and actions.

Others follow the tactic of obsession. It consists in the intentional moral torture of man by various methods.

How to react?

This type of pressure is very difficult to resist. But it is possible (with the due desire). The most important thing is to accurately identify the goals that the prostitute tries to pursue. It is necessary to understand what he wants. And after that act exactly the opposite. Only not letting him know that the confrontation is on purpose. He must take the confidence of the one he is trying to make a "victim", as a trait of character. In the end, a failed moral abuser will leave a person alone. As he will understand that he can not achieve his goal.

But only if he is possessed by it, then one has to have patience and strength of mind. Because the prostitute simply does not fall behind. Before that, he will try all possible methods. If the situation causes too much discomfort, it is better to leave it. In the truest sense of the word - to break all contacts. But because of the persecution, which may well begin, if the fan is fanatic, you can contact the police.

Humiliation

With it, too, often pressures are carried out. Psychological humiliation is aimed at morally "crushing" a person. Each word is used, indicating its inferiority, inferiority and insignificance. But how is it possible to influence a person in this way? After all, he, on the contrary, should take any request or order "with bayonets", angered at what he heard! Yes, it's logical. But in fact it happens differently.

Insults introduce a person into a state of prostration. It is felt even physically - in the temples it starts to pound, breathing becomes faster, and a heart beat is given somewhere in the throat area. A man is absorbed by resentment, mixed with bewilderment, anger, and other adrenaline-provoking feelings.

This can be understood. After all, humiliation is seriously hurting the well-being of man. Because self-esteem is the highest moral value. Even in the Maslow pyramid, it is on the fourth level.

So, at the moment when a person turns out to be a shrouded state of resentment, the same aggressor, provoking the incident, uses the opportunity to press on him: "At least you can do this?".

This phrase literally removes from trance. Undoubtedly, being in a normal state, a person would instantly brush it off. But only in this situation the psychological defense mechanism is activated. At the subconscious level a person wakes up a desire to prove his worth and convince the offender that he was mistaken about him. And he grabs the errand. But this is what the offender needed.

Confrontation

Since psychological pressure is quite successfully carried out through humiliation, it is necessary to talk about an effective way to combat this impact.

So, you need to remember that this method works only with people who are not self-confident. A self-sufficient person will only laugh at the attempts of some aggressor-loser to act with baseless insults. They just will not hurt him.

Therefore, you need to become such a self-sufficient person. Any rude word should turn into a kind of signal that reminds a person that it's time to activate protection, and not succumb to provocations.

In the soul, of course, the storm can rage. But the appearance should maximally disarm the aggressor. A relaxed, disinterested glance, an occasional yawning, a loose pose, a slight grin-such a kind would hint at his unsuccessful attempts to force a person to do something so vile. And when he has finished crucifying, you can drop a simple indifferent phrase that will put him in a dead end: "Did you say everything?". Or alternative: "I heard you." And you can limit yourself to one word: "Good." Ignore completely the offender is not necessary. He knows that a person is not deaf, and therefore he hears him. And if he is silent - then, most likely, just does not know what to say. So at least one reaction should be.

Suggestion and belief

This is a more delicate method, with the help of which there is psychological pressure. They do not own everything. After all, you need to be able to exercise influence on someone else's consciousness, provoking an uncritical perception of his attitudes and beliefs.

In addition, these manipulators masterfully master the word. They are empathetic, observant, and know exactly what to say to this or that person, that he himself under his influence redesigned his settings. Such people skillfully play with the subconscious of the "victim". They involve intonation, imaginary friendliness and frankness, empathy and many other semi-unconscious ways.

A vivid example can be considered all known fraudulent online schemes - single-page sites, which colorfully describes some "innovative" method of earning, becoming available to the user after replenishing his own account (later supposedly necessary to him) for a certain, "purely symbolic" Amount. These resources are headed by video, built on the same principle. A certain person first mentally tells his story about how he got out of the mud into the princes, and then switches to the user - begins to say that he is worthy of a better life, and he should think about himself, his family, children, parents. He does not lose anything - some five thousand will pay off almost in the first 10 minutes of activation of the system.

Surprisingly, such psychological pressure works. The words of the "speaker" hurt the living, penetrate into the soul, make me believe, motivate. But, of course, only he is the winner.

And this is just one example. In life, this is also very common. And if on the Internet you can just force yourself to close the page, then in reality you have to confront.

Manipulation

Often, psychological pressure on a person is through this very method. Manipulation involves the use of violent, deceptive or covert tactics. And if in the case of humiliation or coercion, a person realizes that he is attacked, then in this situation - no.

The manipulator, which promotes its interests at the expense of other people, can hide its true face, aggressive behavior and bad intentions. He is well aware of the psychologically vulnerable places of the "victim". And he is cruel and indifferent. The manipulator does not worry that his actions can damage the person he perceives as his "pawn."

Psychological pressure on a person is manipulated in various ways. Psychologist Harriet Breaker, for example, noted five main points:

• Positive reinforcement - imaginary sympathy, charm, praise, apology, approval, attention, flattery and sycophancy.
• Negative - promises to get rid of an unpleasant, difficult and problematic situation.
• Partial reinforcement is encouraging a person to persevere, eventually leading him to failure. A vivid example is a casino. The player can be allowed to win several times, but in the end he will drop everything to a penny, bogged down in excitement.
• Punishment - intimidation, emotional blackmail, abuse, an attempt to impose a sense of guilt.
• Injuries are one-off outbursts of anger, tantrums, insults, and other examples of frightening behavior aimed at frightening the victim and convincing her of the seriousness of the manipulator's intentions.

There are also many other ways. But, however, whatever they were, the goal of the manipulator is always the same - to gain personal benefits and achieve the goal.

How to avoid manipulation?

This question should also be answered briefly. How to resist the psychological pressure, carried out through manipulation, there are a lot of recommendations and advice. And to whatever one of them he listens, he will always have to do the same thing - to keep the situation under his control.

He needs self-confidence, self-control, healthy distrust and care. It is very important to notice the beginning of manipulation in time. It's easy - a person will feel how his weak spots are under pressure.

Still not hamper the habit of analyzing what is happening. And it's not just about studying the behavior of potential manipulators. A person, besides this, needs to look at his goals, dreams and plans. Do they really belong to him? Or these settings were once imposed on him, and he now follows them? All this must be thought through carefully.

How to resist psychological pressure? It is necessary to become critical. And visually impregnable. Manipulators always count on a quick result. You can not give it to them. Each proposal or request must be answered: "I'll think about it." And do not hesitate to think about it. In a calm environment, without any pressure, it will be possible to "probe" the request from within and to understand whether a person really needs help, or he is only trying to take advantage of it.

And if a decision is made to refuse, it is necessary to express it in a firm form, showing a character. Hearing the uncertain "No, probably ...", the manipulator will start "dolamyvat" rights. You can not allow this.

By the way, do not hesitate to show your puppeteer your emotions. This will convict him, and he will fall behind. You can do with a simple phrase, like: "I do not owe you anything, but because of your perseverance I feel ungrateful!".

Turning to the law

It is important to note that even in the criminal code there is information about psychological pressure on a person. The Criminal Code of the Russian Federation will not be superfluous to open and scroll up to Article 40. It is called "Physical or mental coercion". And this is a direct reference to what was said at the very beginning. Only here more and more seriously.

It is about crimes committed by people under the pressure of the aggressor. The first paragraph of the article says that harm caused to interests protected by law is not considered an offense. But only in the event that a person could not manage his actions at that moment. Suppose he was forced at gunpoint, or holding one of his relatives in the gun.

But if it was psychological pressure on a person? Article 40 in this case is referred to the previous one, at number 39. The question of criminal liability for the commission of a crime under a psychic influence is resolved taking into account its provisions.

Article 39 is called "Extreme Need". It says that the crime is not such if it was committed to eliminate the danger that threatens a person or other people directly.

However, this is not all that is said in the Criminal Code. Psychological pressure is still mentioned in the 130th article. It noted that the humiliation of the dignity and honor of another person, expressed in extreme form, is punishable by a fine of up to 40,000 rubles, or a salary for three months. In especially severe cases, 120 hours of community service or 6 months of corrective labor are appointed. The maximum penalty is the restriction of freedom to 1 year. Very serious consequences of psychological pressure.

Article of the Criminal Code also states that an insult expressed publicly (through the media, in a speech, in a video message, etc.), is punished twice more than a fine. The maximum punishment is 2 years of restriction of freedom.

In the case of children

Psychological pressure on the child is an even more serious topic. Everyone knows how much the children (the majority, in any case) have a weak and fragile consciousness. It is extremely easy to influence them. And we are not talking about a healthy pressure, which can not even be called that ("You will not remove the toys - I will not talk to you" - the impact through a sense of guilt). This refers to the most real coercion to anything, the child's attack (psychological).

The pressure of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation in this case defines, as "Failure to fulfill the duties of upbringing." This is article number 156. And the provisions concern not only parents, but also employees of educational, social, educational and medical organizations. Ill-treatment is what psychological pressure is equated with. Article prescribes and punishments. This can be a fine of 100,000 rubles, compulsory work (440 hours), liquidation of the right to hold a certain position, or imprisonment for three years.

But, of course, cases rarely reach litigation. Psychological pressure article UK characterizes in a specific manner, in life it occurs in another manifestation.

Many parents simply unceremoniously interfere in the child's space, brutally control every step of the child, force him to do what he does not like (go to the boxing section when the kid wants to dance, for example). Some are sure - if you point out to him the shortcomings, then he will correct them. But this is not so. Not with all adults who have stronger mentality and intelligence, this works. A child and completely closed in themselves, beginning to doubt their own abilities and abilities, and constantly feeling guilty is not clear for what. Parents, exerting a crushing influence, thus reflect their own experiences and fears. But in the end they become enemies of their child, not allies. Therefore, it is necessary to approach the issues of education very responsibly. The birth and personal formation of a new member of society is a huge responsibility and serious work.

Labor Sphere

Finally I would like to talk a little about psychological pressure at work. After all, it is most often in the labor sphere that a person encounters this phenomenon.

It is necessary to understand first of all that the organization in which a person works is just a structure. In which everyone takes his place, and performs certain tasks. And the relationship between colleagues should be appropriate, business. If someone suddenly tries to put pressure on a person to serve (he changed it, did a dirty job, went out on weekends), one should refuse with dignity - somewhat cold, but most polite. You can not put the interests of strangers above your own. Especially if they have enough courage to handle such requirements.

Exceptions are only those cases when a colleague really needs help. By the way, afraid of gossip, rumors, gossip or attempts to "sit down" is not necessary. A person should remember that he is a professional first. His skills and performance from evil languages will not be worse. And with the boss, if he is interested in the topic, you can always explain.

Much worse, if the "onslaught" comes directly from the boss. And there are leaders who are only happy to put psychological pressure on a person. Article of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation here, of course, will not serve as information support, but the provisions of the Labor Code are complete.

Most often, ordinary workers face persistent "requests" from the chief to apply for dismissal on their own. This contradicts the 77th article of the LC RF, since such actions exclude the freedom of expression of the employee's will. And a person has every right to apply to the prosecutor's office to open a labor dispute, or directly to the court. But you will need evidence obtained without violating the law. They are needed, by the way, in any case, whatever the complaint.

Summarizing, I would like to say that the topic of psychological pressure is really very detailed and interesting. It contains many more nuances and important moments. But with them, if you want, you can get acquainted individually. Knowledge of this nature is never superfluous.