How to be kinder? We all need love

The song "Be kinder" is becoming more popular. And is the idea becoming more popular - to change for the better? Yes, people want to become better, but, alas, many people are not looking for kindness at all. Maybe it's all about the vague understanding of the word "kindness" itself? Why to become more kind is not prestigious?

About the meaning of the suffix

People confuse two concepts: kind and kind. About the first we'll talk a little later, and now - about the second. A pejorative suffix indicates that kindness is not real. Dobrenkie, too, are of several kinds. First, weak spineless people who simply can not refuse or punish (you saw such school teachers). Secondly, these are lazy people who can not repel a subordinate, because they do not care, they are easier to smile and do not clog their heads. Third, they are hypocritical vipers, who pretend to be good for the sake of profit. The last category is the most unpleasant and dangerous.

Kindness of the strong

To be kinder does not mean to be weaker. Only a strong person can afford sympathy, warmth and tenderness. And it is these manifestations that make a person good. And when it comes to a strong person, you realize that his kindness is not from self-interest and not from lack of character. To be kinder is to be ready to give without expectation of reciprocity. Really kind people are respected and loved. Remember the image of Melanie from Gone with the Wind. Behind the soft appearance and tenderness stood an unshakably strong personality, especially when it came to moral values.

Start with yourself

The Bible demands that you love others as we love ourselves. Start by loving yourself. This does not mean that you can "turn off" self-control and lower the bar of requirements for yourself. This means that you have to share the emotional and intellectual "I". Very many people say that they want to be kicked to the end. In fact, they just want feedback. Very many agree to an unkind attitude to themselves only because it is difficult to get any other attention. And an evil attitude inflicts injuries on the thickest skin. Imagine that you have a best friend who makes mistakes. So, this best friend is you. Regardless of the circumstances and mistakes, you need a warm emotional attitude and support. To be kind to yourself is difficult, but it is from this that you need to start the path to kindness.

If faith does not frighten

Perhaps you need the support of people who also want to be good. In this situation, turn to the believers of the confession to which you belong. In any traditional religion, mercy and kindness in price, find sincere believers among your friends - and learn. Usually a believer's kindness comes from attentiveness to himself and understanding what is happening in the soul. This is worth learning, perhaps, to read the fundamental creations of the Holy Fathers, for example, "Philokalia" or "Ladder".

Even if you do not feel a natural talent for kindness, you can be kinder to learn. Just try to look good in yourself and people - and enjoy it. What begins in our mind, necessarily continues in reality. And this is not a "secret", but the truth mentioned in the Bible. Kind people really live happier.