How can I refuse the guy?

Quite often, girls have to say "no" to their fans. But how very nice to refuse the guy, so that he does not offend, very few know. To say the word "no" can almost everyone, but to choose the tone and expressions in such a way that once it became clear that this is really a refusal, and not one of the variants of the game, one must learn each one not to provoke ambiguous situations or even direct aggression. If a girl does not know how to refuse a guy right or is afraid to do it for some reason, but she does not want to meet, she can be seen as a mean, cunning, seeking benefit in the manipulation of the guys. Thus, pushing away not only young people, but also their own friends.

Or at the other extreme, if the guys see that the girl does not dare to refuse, she can look in their eyes either weak-spirited or easily accessible, but in either case, troubles and all ambiguous situations in relations with the opposite sex are guaranteed to her. And if a girl knows how to refuse a guy beautifully, then she, on the contrary, can grow in the eyes of an outcast pretender and all those around her. After all, every girl must strive to respect others and to assert the authority of her personality in the eyes of others.

If the girl is sure that she will never be with this particular guy, then to motivate a refusal by lack of time or total employment is silly, because he will cherish the hope that one day she will still find a minute for him in her busy schedule. And, seeing that this girl does not have time for him, but for someone else's time is, will find it quite justified by a fraud and, naturally, will complain about it to his friends, those - his own. And the image of a deceiver to gain a foothold for this girl, if not for life, then for a very long time.

If the girl, before refusing the guy, still doubts, it is best to offer him a friendship, then the guy will hope and try to please, and the girl will have the time and opportunity to communicate more closely with the potential candidate better. And if the girl completely excludes even the very possibility of developing relations with this young man, it is better for him to say this at once and honestly, but in his voice there should be regret - this will preserve or even enhance his self-esteem. Before refusing to tell the guy, let him read to him poems about love and separation, or praise him, describe to him his dignity, and then say that he is very sorry, but you can not order your heart. The main thing is, before refusing the guy, to calm down and with confidence in the voice to say what she has decided, but she must believe in what she says. If the words are sincere, then they will be correctly perceived by all adequate people .

Older ladies also often have similar situations. For example, after a friendly dinner, meetings of classmates or classmates, business negotiations or a chance meeting of old acquaintances, in the vast majority of cases the offer to continue communication in a more intimate atmosphere follows. Married women are better not to attend such events at all, in order not to endanger the family for the sake of a minute weakness or because of an extra glass of alcohol, for it is not for nothing that people say that a drunken woman is a stranger.

But how to enter an unmarried free woman, if a man proposing intimacy is undesirable for one reason or another?

First, do not worry, because women who are prone to excessive excitement, compassionate and indecisive offer of intimacy provokes a whole wave of emotions - and refuse to decide not to offend, and does not want to agree, confusedly explaining something, confusing the situation . A man can find these indistinct explanations as a sign of coquetry or a manifestation of deliberate modesty, they say, "I'm not that kind." Such women should know that for an adequate man, rejection is not the end of the world, but with inadequate value relationships, at least, it's silly. For nature, prone to adventure, play on other people's nerves - this is just another fun adventure. Such a person can agree, even knowing in advance that he will not fulfill his promise, but will seek the opportunity, tickling the nerves and himself and the man, to escape. It should be remembered that such women are more likely than others to get into criminal news reports as victims of rape and beatings. Therefore, this behavior should be avoided.