Aggression in children and how to deal with it

Many parents are faced with the fact that their child behaves completely differently than is proper. This is not about capriciousness and disobedience, but about what is much more serious. Many for the time being do not believe that their baby can become angry, aggressive and uncontrollable in a moment. This can start unexpectedly or gradually. In principle, child aggression is a phenomenon that does not surprise anyone, except the parents of an aggressive child. This question should be analyzed in detail, since it is complex and very important.

Aggression in children: what is it

Not everyone knows, but in fact it is rather a norm than a deviation. Simply in this way the child expresses the accumulated emotions: anger, rage are after all quite natural answers to some irritants. Problems begin only when aggression in children does not pass. In other words, splash of malice does not lead to the fact that the child comes to a normal state. To what it can lead. There can be very many consequences. The most terrible of them, perhaps, is the irreparable deformation of the child's personality.

Aggression in children can occur at any age. Do not currently focus on children who have reached the age of transition, since with them the situation is clear (hormones, etc.), and it is better to talk about children who are younger.

The causes of child aggression can be different. First of all, it should be said that a year-old child is able to understand and evaluate everything that is happening around him. Even the slightest quarrel between parents can hurt his psyche. Many married couples consider family scandals the norm and do not even try to somehow protect the child from them.

Very good, if the child aggression was seen very early. In this case, parents can block it, and with the child everything will be fine. What do you need to do for this? First of all, you need to protect the child from anything that might somehow anger him. Make all this necessary so that he did not notice anything. Further it is necessary to explain that in his behavior not those, but at the same time and tell about why it is bad. You need to speak only very calmly and kindly. No criticism and harsh punishments. Here the situation can be corrected only by kindness.

If this does not help, then follow the child for a while, as this can help you establish the cause of his aggressive behavior. It is possible that your child just does not have enough attention.

Children under three years old often react aggressively to the word "impossible." For the most part, this shows that he is very spoiled. He specifically provokes his parents, and then watches how they will act, trying to stop his actions. He regards any prohibition as a challenge.

Children from three years in attacks of aggression say the phrase "I myself". This means that the child strives for independence, and parents for him are no longer an authority. Children of this age very often cease to respect adults.

Aggression in children is a common phenomenon. Parents respond to it adequately. First of all, they should understand the fact that young children are not able to understand the pain of others, which means that persuasion and even tears will not lead to anything. The best option here is to redirect the energy of the child to another channel. For example, a child shouting in a room can be invited to the bathroom, saying that there he will be much better shouted. When you come to the bathroom, turn on the water and ask the child to shout her noise. Open the tap is less, then stronger. Very soon the child will calm down and even cheer.

With aggressive children you need to work unobtrusively and unnoticed. Only then it will be possible to achieve good results.