A father-in-law is an ally. How to establish relations with the father of the wife?

About the mother-in-law many jokes are composed, they are told at weddings, corporate parties and just in the evening for dinner. These fables, long rastaskannye to quote and winged expressions, cause laughter in everyone, including the mothers of girls. Simultaneously, the father-in-law remains in the shadows, his relationship with the son-in-law has not been said a word. Who is he, this mysterious new relative in the life of the banded man?

A real man

The father-in-law is the father of your wife, relations with which do not always develop smoothly, without a hitch and hitch. It's lucky if he's henpecked and hiding behind the skirt of his mother-in-law: in this case you will have to fight back only from the claims of the new mother. It's hard when a father-in-law is a strong person or a jack of all trades. In this case, your life will change dramatically. Get ready: you will be accused of the fact that you do not know how to hammer a nail, and twist the bulb in a crooked manner. He will persistently visit your house and demonstrate business affairs demonstratively, letting you know with his important appearance that you are a complete layman and a slacker.

For such encroachments on your personal space will inevitably be followed by scandals and quarrels. Who will like that he is humiliated in the eyes of the second half? To avoid unpleasant situations, it is better for a man to say to the papal master: "And let me teach you, where else can I find such golden hands?" After this phrase, rest assured, the father of the wife will immediately become unarmed. He spreads into a smile and will gladly get used to the role of mentor. Play for him, because father-in-law is a "gray cardinal", and it's better not to spoil relations with him.

Powerful tyrant

Sometimes it happens that your new relative is far from henpecked, but, conversely, the thunderstorm of the whole family and the silent despot. Especially often this situation can be traced in families where the father of the wife is a law enforcement officer or a military man. It is almost impossible to fight here: you will always remain "ordinary" for him. Such a person at the first meeting with an imperious glance will seal you to the floor, not listening to objections and complaints. He will not allow disrespect to his person, but he will neglect you. This father-in-law is a threat to marriage, since he will in every way set up his daughter against you, calling him a weakling or spineless worm.

From the imperious dad it's better to run where the eyes look: to a neighboring city, a country, or better to another continent. To live with him in the same house - to risk getting a gift of frustrated nerves and unstable psyche. Therefore, take your wife in an armful and remove the apartment as far from him. Mother-in-law and father-in-law will be your rare guests for the holidays: several days a year they can be tolerated.

Creepy jealous man

It happens. In this situation, father-in-law is an angry Othello, who is in every way jealous of his little princess to an unshaven man, that is, to you. He does not like the way you look at her, what you say and how you make faces. Do not let God offend his baby, make her worry or get angry! The slightest tear running down her daughter's cheek, any of her calls, full of sobbing and suffering, will force father to quit business and run to the other end of the city to solve the problem, the culprit of which is often you. Even if you do not have anything to do with it, they will still make you a scapegoat.

Such tests are often widowers who devoted their lives to raising a child, or rich money bags, used to pamper their priceless crumbs. What do you do in this situation? Show that they are able to support and support their wife, take care of her, love and cherish. Better - give birth to your own daughter. The happy grandfather will immediately switch attention to her granddaughter and calm down, until she has cavaliers.

Ally

If you are already a ready formed supporter of your ideas, beginnings, ways of life and character - you are a lucky person. If you get a version that requires improvement, do not worry: it is easy to make your father's wife an ally, the main thing is to show steadfastness and imagination.

Think: what does father-in-law mean for you? Who is he? Father? Certainly. But first of all he is a man. Therefore, like all other representatives of the stronger sex, she loves beer with a bang, football and fishing. Take advantage of this: suggest him to wave at the lake with an overnight stay, invite to the stadium or to the Irish pub. Sharing his hobby, you quickly make contact and even make friends.

In this case, father-in-law will become an ally - a person you can rely on. Showing male solidarity, he will always take your side, even in conflicts with his wife and mother-in-law. In this case, the father of the wife will become not only a relative, but also a wise mentor, and a faithful companion.