"Treason - it's very painful and insulting," - it is these words you will tell any woman who survived such a betrayal and a blow to self-esteem from a beloved man. It is not so important how it was possible to learn that the faithful have very personal relationships on the side. The main questions: "What to do now with this knowledge?" And "Why do men get lovers?"
The main reasons for male cheating
We agree immediately that we will deal mainly with situations in which one member of the stronger sex prefers to have relations with several women at once. Many ladies prefer, after learning about the treason, immediately accuse the infidel of all mortal sins, and the affected side to be elevated to the rank of saints. And this is a completely wrong assessment of the situation. After all, one of the most important reasons why men start lovers is problems in dealing with a constant companion. A man is not enough to conquer once. Relationships need daily comprehensive work, it is necessary to maintain the partner's attention to his own person, to remain interesting and desirable for him in any life situations. Remember that even a casual acquaintance of a girl can make a great impression on your faithful in the event that the rival understands him better, will be interested or give something that the previous companion could not give. One should not forget about feelings: if a man has cooled to his woman, he will sooner or later change for sure. In addition, he can always fall in love again or experience a strong passion.
Why do men have mistresses when everything is good in the family?
The paradox of the situation is that it changes not only the groomed boring wives in dressing gowns and hair curlers. Often the situation looks quite different: the wife is pretty, a common cozy house, material prosperity, an interestingly organized joint leisure. A husband changes. The reason for this behavior is the thirst for new sensations, perhaps in the family everything is too perfect, and this makes it boring. The desire for walking "left" can be imposed on a man and his unmarried friends. And it's not just about weak-willed representatives of the stronger sex. It is possible that a man who is quite sure of himself, after listening to stories about the exploits of his comrades, will want to remember his youth and make sure of his own abilities.
What to do when you learn about treason?
Most importantly, try to keep cool and understand why men start lovers. The best solution to a love polygon will be when its peak finds its strength and, having explained itself, remains with one of its women. In practice, this happens rarely. More often one of the women leaves, but not immediately. Do not look for the girlfriend of your loved one and try to find out the relationship with her. If you want to preserve your union, it's worth looking for mistakes in your behavior and trying to fix them. Do not forget to let the man know that you will not tolerate such behavior from now on. Perhaps you should spend some time alone. According to statistics, the relationship in which a woman enters as a mistress, is rarely long-lasting and truly lasting. In addition, the one who has been "taken away" by a man knows him well enough and, if he wishes, can try to remember how to subdue his heart. Of course, in the event that, having calmed down and rested from a partner, she will still wish to return everything back.