White and black envy. How to get rid of envy?

Envy is a vice of a man in which practically no one ever confesses. People can boast of gluttony, lasciviousness, laziness or pride, but not envy. It is not surprising, because a person who is angry at people who are good, or rejoices at the suffering of others, can hardly evoke sympathy from anyone.
In Soviet times, everyone was equal, and even if someone was "more equal", they never demonstrated their wealth. What can not be said about our times. On television and in the press now and then count money in someone else's wallets, whether it's a deputy's purse, an actress or a model is not important. The sums are shocking, and it is here that the mechanism of envy is launched, the question arises: "Why is one everything, and the other nothing?". Envy originates from a heightened sense of injustice.
Jealous of both men and women. If jealousy wakes up to a representative of the opposite sex, therefore, envy the person of his sex. Women envy the beauty of other ladies, men are rich in the strong half of humanity, and together they envy luck, talent, knowledge and skills, luxury and youth. But no one ever admits this envy to anyone.

What is envy? How to learn to recognize it? And how to learn not to be jealous? Let's try to understand these difficult issues.

Envy is white. How to get rid of white envy?
Envy "in a kind way", at first glance this feeling is close to admiration and maybe even the engine of progress: I want the same, then I will definitely achieve it.
In fact, the basis of envy is always a comparison - others and I, which can not be said about admiration. We can admire art, masters of painting, but we will never compare ourselves with them. Comparing yourself with someone in this case is not good. By the way, I would like to quote Mandelshtam: "Do not compare: the living is incomparable." If you consider someone better than yourself, then you get worse, as a consequence - a feeling of inferiority, anger and resentment.
Envy differs in its specificity from simple desires. If you just want a house by the sea - this is a desire. And if the house should be exactly the same as that of a neighbor on the site, then, most likely - you are jealous of a neighbor.
How to get rid of white envy?
If you clearly feel the presence in your life of white envy, you should immediately begin to act precisely in the direction where your opponent has succeeded. If you envy the effeminate appearance of a girlfriend, get rid of a feeling of envy will help hike in beauty salon, exercise or a new diet. Perhaps you will not become as beautiful as she is, but once again emphasize your advantages, you will find a highlight in your appearance, therefore, increase your self-esteem. A feeling of envy for her friend will gradually pass.

Envy is black. How to get rid of black envy?
Strange as it may seem, but the sharpest envy is not for the most successful people, not for Bill Gates or Julia Roberts, but for whose position is not much better than their own. If a person of approximately your level of abilities and knowledge is offered a highly paid job, the question immediately arises: "Why not me?". And then, as they say, it went. Perhaps, say: "Will you be lucky next time?". Probably, be at fault on destiny. And, perhaps, you will do everything possible to ensure that this work does not fall into him. In the latter two variants, black envy is clearly discernible. The worst thing that black jealousy can grow is schadenfreude. People with low self-esteem tend to feel this feeling: "I'm not the only one who is so unlucky!". Gloating is, if you can say so, the upper stage of envy.
How to get rid of black envy?
If suddenly a sense of envy is overwhelmed, common sense is useless. At such a time, loneliness will help get rid of a feeling of envy. We need to retire with ourselves for a short time in a quiet, secluded place where you can calm down and relax. You should imagine something very pleasant that happened in your life, focus on this thought, keep the pleasant sensations in your head until you realize that there were a lot of wonderful minutes in your life.