Sexual Education of Children

What is sex education? At what age should we start talking with children about a "secret and shameful" topic? And how much does it take to delve into this topic?

It is profoundly mistaken that sex education of children at a young age is just the right toys and clothes. That is, boys in any case should not be given to play in dolls and toy pottery, and girls are counter-indicative machines, machines and boxing gloves. Although this, of course, is of no small importance in order to ask the formation of the growing personality the right direction.

However, do not worry if the boy begins to play in the pot or tries to sew a new dress for the pupa - the best tailors and cooks from the earliest times were considered to be men. Therefore, you do not need to scold the offspring or mock him in this case.

Another question is if the boy, playing, tries to feed the doll with "breast". This moment should alert the adults. Sex education, which, of course, takes its origins in a deep childhood, first of all it must concern the inner orientation of the individual to his future role in the family: father or mother. A child from the age of two is quite capable of associating himself with the father or mother, repeating the behavioral stereotype behind them in the game. It's great if the family is in a state of goodwill, mutual assistance and understanding.

And what's wrong with that, if a kid climbs to help his mother wash dishes - many good fathers do not shy away from such work! Another thing is bad: when the father roughly shakes his little son: "Are you a woman, do you use a rag in the sink?" After repeating Papa's words later, an adult man will treat women's work with contempt, will never help his mother and wife, will become rude and stale . And it seems that his father was right, he also paid attention to his son, gave an explanation of what men should do, and what - women. However, such sex education is more likely to harm the child's psyche, and not benefit.

But it is even more difficult to properly educate the future man in an incomplete family, where only women are around him, and there is no real male example. Sex education In such families completely falls on women's shoulders. Of course, the main information in these families the kid is trying to present through literature, films, performances, role-playing games. Later, the school comes to the rescue. And it's fine if in the children's educational institution the boy will meet a good teacher - a man who can give him an example of a real man - a family man!

The second important issue in sex education since ancient times is considered sexual education. But you should not substitute for sexual education sexual: the first is only part of the second. Although it is impossible to hide from him under false shame or indifference, telling the child who is interested in a fairy tale about where the children are coming from.

Of course, it's silly for a young child to explain in detail how men engage in sex with women, how conception takes place with all the physiological details. But here's to answer the baby on the question so that it became clear to him, it is quite possible.

The baby in her tummy has aunt. It can be hard, even painful, but she is very fond of her future baby, so she happily tolerates all this. And it was not easy for your mother to bear you, but she loved you very much already, and still loves you! When a baby in the tummy of a mother grows to the right size, the hospital takes it out, and the aunt feeds it with milk. Usually a child is enough. This version lays in the soul of the baby, whether it's a girl or a boy, respect, love for a mother woman.

Later, more often by the age of 6 to 7, children are beginning to be interested in another question: how do babies get into the tummy to their mother? Usually at this age, children are already beginning to go to school. Therefore, it is not the last question that the sex education of schoolchildren should be started not in grade 9, but much earlier - starting with the first grade.

You can invite to the class of a medical worker or psychologist, you can conduct a conversation separately for boys and girls. But it is extremely important to conduct such studies at the proper level. Otherwise, our children will learn about the most gentle and pleasant intimate side of life from rather questionable sources who can teach them all this in a dirty, disgusting, perverted light.