"I hate myself!" How to love yourself again?

In our information age, filled with glossy magazines and public labels, it is very difficult to maintain a psychological state in the form. A person from an early age is imposed all sorts of ideals and images, without which, at a more conscious age, he can not do without. As a result of deformation of one's own personality, a person begins to perceive himself through the negative prism of emotions. The triggered mechanism can no longer stop, and a destructive hatred for itself arises.

"I hate myself!" - often these words can be heard not only from the mouth of a teenager, but also from an adult, self-sufficient person. This is not selfishness and not the desire to attract attention by such statements. This problem has much deeper psychological roots.

Often the phrase "I hate myself and I want to die" can be heard from the mouth of an excellent student, a leader, a beauty or a handsome one, a first-class athlete, a better manager, etc. People who tend to perfectionism and idealize themselves tend to suffer from the hatred syndrome. For example, a student is used to being always in the forefront, that he is an excellent student and for him any exam is not a problem. But once he stumbles, once to make a mistake - and the whole world is falling apart. Let's say an excellent student on any exam will get an average rating instead of the usual five - this situation will turn into a tragedy for him. And the only conclusion is the phrase: "I hate myself, I'm a loser!" Student for a long time out of the rut, he will begin to engage in self-flagellation. Sometimes, when a person can not go out of the veil of hatred to himself, he can commit suicide.

To live in this world with love for yourself and others, you should never idealize yourself, the life situation or other people. After all, a man who idealizes himself, at the slightest mistake, will break, because he will have to change the "rose-colored glasses" to a realistic worldview. The reason for self-hatred is ordinary anger directed into itself: I do not correspond to my own ideal, so I hate myself.

Usually, attacks of such hatred dull the vision of oneself. A person begins to lose touch with the real world, he completely immerses himself in his own grievances, ceases to adequately respond to the impulses of others. Any phrase or casual look seems to him insulting and degrading his dignity. On attempts to help, he reacts irritably and aggressively. Often you can hear from him: "Leave me alone! I want to be alone! How are you boring me! I hate myself! "Life begins to seem like an eternal struggle with the world around us. But in reality there is a struggle between the "real I" and the "ideal I".

History is not familiar with one case, when hatred of oneself has been projected onto the surrounding world and close people. In this case, a person became a tyrant for friends and family. Choosing a victim, he begins to destroy it morally. Moreover, the more painfully he offends an innocent person, the more he gets pleasure from this process. In this way, the "hating self" self-affirms and suffers the pride of its "ideal self."

The above symptoms can lead to severe consequences for yourself and others. Therefore, one must burn one's own ideal and fall in love with the "real I" as it is: with all weaknesses, delays, speech errors, extra kilograms and the like. After all, life is given once, and it is best to live it with open eyes to a realistic and diverse world.