Self improvement, Psychology
"I do not have a friend," or About the loneliness of a teenager
Especially acute loneliness is felt in adolescence. The maturing person begins to be more critical of himself and others, his expectations and demands are changing. And the problem: "I do not have a friend" is becoming more painful. How to help a teenager cope with a sense of loneliness?
If your son or daughter says: "I do not have a friend," for him or her it means "I feel bad." Try to be as attentive as possible to the child during this period. Talk to him as much as possible, just do not teach, but try to understand. Be sincere, share your thoughts and experiences, memories of how you grew up, what was important to you then. Alas, much more often a teenager does not admit his problems, but prefers to wear everything in himself. But nevertheless, there are certain signals. A clever parent or teacher will notice them and try to help.
First of all, categorically avoid criticism! Remember that any comments are therefore perceived with hostility, that they hurt an already sensitive and fragile soul. A teenager has a very shaky self-esteem, he is only looking for himself and his place in this world. So if the words "I have no friend" you will react with criticism ("He is not, because you are not enough ... smart, good, handsome, kind, you try") and similar texts - be sure, contact with the child you
In addition, remember and with what jealousy young creatures look at those peers who they seem more mature, successful, beautiful. For the girl, the thought "I do not have a friend" is often closely related to the example of girl friends who have boys for a long time. It is in adolescence that you want to be as good as others, to be attractive and to cause admiration. In this there is nothing shameful - this is a normal process of self-assertion and the formation of personality.
It is important for a teenager and what kind of friend a person is, whether he knows how to accept him real, not to try to change.
Similar articles
Trending Now