The birth of a child is an incredible happiness and a great responsibility. Disputes about the upbringing of children and the care of the kids have been conducted since time immemorial. Experienced teachers and pediatricians agree that it is easier to defend a thesis on how to grow and educate, rather than grow a single child of their own. And yet, what is the most important in the upbringing of children? We will try to collect the most valuable tips and tips on how to raise a child in one article.
To grow or grow a child?
Not all parents are fully aware of the responsibility that they take upon themselves, having decided to have children. Most of the young families find it most difficult to provide children with material and regular care in the early years of life. But in fact, this is a big mistake. The roles of mom and dad parents have to be fulfilled throughout life. At the same time, the child needs the greatest support and attention of the family at least until the end of school. Every conscious parent sincerely desires his child only the best. But remember that it is necessary to raise a child, guided not only by one's own desires and dreams. It is useful to remember right from the moment of a baby's birth that he is a person, and after years will become a full-grown adult. The task of parents is to help their child grow up healthy and diversified, and not raise a son or daughter a "good baby." Parenting is a daily process. Remember that for the baby his parents are the most important people in his life. Regardless of your own workload, give each day some time to the child. If you are tired - just chat or play. Do not ignore the baby and do not shift his upbringing to third parties!
Psychological microclimate in the family
To implement the correct education of the child, it is necessary to create a favorable basis. The first years of life the world for the baby is his family. Watching day by day, how adults behave, how they relate to each other, the child shapes his worldview. At the same time, because of the lack of life experience, the kid can not evaluate the rational actions of the parents. Everything that they do seems to him uniquely correct or at least normal. Remember: under no circumstances can you swear and find out the relationship with the child! It is desirable that the child in principle did not encounter negative emotions and bad mood of his parents. It is extremely difficult to fulfill this condition, but try never to break on the child. If you are very tired, upset, or in pain - tell me honestly what happened to your son or daughter. Believe me, even at the age of 3-4, the kid will understand you. Without an explanation of the parents' bad mood, a child may think that the reason is in him, and this is a serious moral trauma. Daily communication, family traditions and holidays - this is what is necessary for each of us, and for children to the greatest extent. In a quiet, positive family, there is more chance of growing a happy and healthy child. Try to protect the baby from excessive information noise and bad news. Even fast and fervent music for children is suitable only for outdoor games and sports activities. It is absolutely unacceptable to watch "adult" programs, militant movies and other videos that can harm a weak psyche.
Ideal environment for development
A preschool child knows as much about the world as his parents had time to tell him. In the first years of life the world of the baby is his room and apartment. Try to conveniently equip the space in which the child lives. Buy toys and materials for creativity, suitable for age toddler. The ideal rule of choosing children's things is to pay attention to their quality and variety, not quantity. Believe me, three different toys will be much more useful and interesting than ten very similar to each other. A child's room or a children's corner must "grow" with their host. Replace furniture if necessary, from time to time update the baby's library and toys. Be sure to monitor the safety in the house, keep potentially dangerous items out of reach of the child.
Nutrition and physical development
Raising a child is not just bringing him up. Of great importance is caring for the baby and maintaining his health. In the first years of life, hygienic procedures are fully implemented by parents. But by the age of 4 the baby has to be able to do many things himself: wash, wash his hands, vysmarkovatsya. Gradually the child learns to take care of himself completely, the parents will only have to remind them from time to time about the implementation of some specific actions. Attention deserves the child's diet. After a full transition to "adults" foods should be organized five meals a day, in which three meals will be basic, and two - snacks. Try to feed the child in a variety of ways, giving preference to useful foods and foods. It is equally important to pay enough attention to the child's physical development. Daily exercise, play mobile games and walk in favorable weather. If you notice that the kid pays special attention to a particular type of physical activity, think about giving it to a suitable sports section.
The main thing is attention and love
In order to raise a worthy member of society and just a good person, it is not necessary to be a child psychologist. The main thing is to love your child and do not hesitate to show it to him daily. Hug the kid at every opportunity, encourage his success and achievements. Treat the child with respect, always listen carefully to his stories and requests. Remember that the relationship with the son or daughter must be built from early childhood. The relationship "parent-child" is useful to replace the communication on an equal footing. Of course, we are talking about positive everyday communication. Playing with the child every day, conducting training sessions with him in a game form, you form a solid foundation of trust for life. It is not necessary to bring up the child by the method of categorical prohibitions, punishments and constant moralizing. If possible, talk with the baby on an equal footing, explaining everything "can" and "not." Believe me, this strategy is no less effective than the most stringent discipline. Try to let the baby feel protected. What is family? "Parents + child" is the best formula, all participants of which should actively participate in each other's lives and solve all the difficulties that arise together.
Preschooler Education
The theme of early development is very popular among modern parents. How to teach a child at home, what should he learn before entering school? Do not completely shift the educational function to a kindergarten or development courses. In the format of thematic studies and lessons, a child does not learn much of what parents can tell him during a normal conversation. Try to talk as much as possible with the baby about everything in the world from an early age. Listening to the questions asked by children, one can learn a lot about their interests. The task of parents is to support the child as much as possible in interesting activities and fields of knowledge. Who knows, perhaps from a young car lover, a really great designer will really grow up, and a fan of cute little animals will become an outstanding veterinarian. Take time to get to know the kid with different kinds of art. Painting, sculpture, theatrical performances and music for children should be selected according to age and personal taste.
Late child
Often, with a special attitude in the family, late children face. The most common problem is excessive care. In most families, the birth of babies after thirty years is a serious and planned event. Mature parents are responsible for their own health and are trying to protect themselves from all potential dangers of their baby. Such mothers and fathers should try to calm down. The fundamentals of childcare must necessarily include the child's familiarity with safety rules. But remember, your baby is not a crystal vase. And if every third of your phrases told a child is a warning or a ban, it's time to adjust your behavior. Mature parents should learn to communicate with their own kid on an equal footing, more often and more to play with it, rather than indicate what and how to right. It would seem that all these problems should not be, when late children are born in large families. But in this case, not everything is simple, because younger people often become pets in the family. And they grow spoiled, feeling their own superiority. If there are several children, parents should try to evenly distribute their attention to everyone. It is important to educate children in love for each other and responsiveness.
One child
It's hard to believe, but several decades ago families with one child were considered strange. Today, many parents do not even think about the birth of children, after the birth of the first child. How is it necessary to organize upbringing if you have one child in the family? Very often the only child is brought up in the same way as late children. Common parents' mistakes: hyperoperation and excessive expectations. Child psychologists say that the only children in the family often have problems in their relationships with peers. To prevent difficulties in this category, you should create daily conditions for the child to play with peers. Walk on the same playground where your kid can make friends or write it down for developmental courses. Very often, if one child is born in the family, the parents decide not to give it to the kindergarten. But remember, you can do this only if the baby has enough friends in the yard or in the neighborhood with you his cousins and coevals, with whom you can see each day. Do not try to solve everything for the child, on the contrary, gradually the parents should reduce their influence in all spheres of life. This strategy of education will allow the child to grow up independent and responsible.
Incomplete family
One of the most difficult and sensitive questions - is it possible to raise a happy child in a family without a father? In our time, many women experience all the joys of motherhood without a husband, and sometimes all alone. How to raise a child if there is no father in his life? The most important thing for a mother in this situation is to personally get rid of complexes associated with her own family situation. You can not utter the word "loneliness" and its variations. No matter how circumstances develop, you now have at least two people and you are already a family: mother and baby. Very well, if a male relative can help in raising a child: an older brother, an uncle or a grandfather. But even if such a person is not in your environment, you should not get upset. For the comprehensive development of the child, the mother will have to perform the functions of the parents of both sexes. The best answer to the question: "How to raise a child without a father and manage everything yourself?" - from time to time imagine what the ideal father would do. Develop the child comprehensively, do not be lazy with him to play sports and play outdoor games. If the kid very much wants to do some "male" business - buy him the appropriate toys, organize a campaign for a football match or fishing. In fact, raising a child to mother is not so difficult. The most important thing is love and the desire to give the baby all the essentials.
We grow a successful child!
Every third person in adulthood suffers from complexes acquired in childhood. Just think about this figure! But where do all these psychological problems come from, if initially all parents wish their babies only good? Thinking about how to teach a child and develop, not all of us think about "such little things" as everyday communication. Try to memorize and master some simple rules. Never compare your child to other children, especially if the comparison is not in his favor. Critical estimates are not the place in the process of home teaching and creative pursuits. Remember how happy you were when the baby learned to walk. Could you scold him or criticize him for not taking the first steps? It is also necessary to behave in the course of mastering any other activities. Does your baby paint unevenly? Offer him another coloring, and be sure to praise for the imperfect. Remind the child as often as possible about the fact that you love him, regardless of his success and behavior. Remember that you can understate the self-esteem of a small person to zero without noticing it. It will take a lot of effort to restore it.