An infantile man.

Very often you can hear complaints and conversations about the infantilism of men and women. But somehow this does not surprise or discourage anyone. Life in the modern rhythm sometimes pushes us to such behavior, stops the growing in a person's personality and keeps an adult in a small, if not to say unintelligent child. The deification of youth and eternal youth, the vast choice of entertainment offered by modern culture - this is what provokes a small child who is deep inside each of us, to wake up and sometimes to speak too loudly about himself, while pushing the adult far away. But, unfortunately, very many people start to like such a child's adult life and they do not rush everything back to square one. Often parents are guilty of this, especially mothers who want to delay the growing up of their child.

But sooner or later there comes a time when their beloved children express a natural desire to marry. And then there are problems in their family life and quite justified complaints from the satellites.

Infantile man is absolutely not ready for this way of life, he can not understand what his wife wants.

Infantile behavior, as representatives of the stronger sex, and the fairer sex, what is it? What is it manifested in?

Infantile man - a man who has preserved the child's perception of the world, pronounced childish features. Undoubtedly, they can successfully masquerade as maturity, but this is more like quantity than quality.

So what are these traits?

1. Self-centeredness is a fixation on one's own personality. For a small child this is quite natural. He by his perception and age can not understand that people are different and differently see the world around them. But there seems to be an overly egocentric view of an adult, at least strange. Recently it has become, unfortunately, a common occurrence. How does an infantile man behave? He is quite sure that everything around him is created only for him, and the world should only revolve around his beloved. Others are only good when they do something for him. After all, it is the desire to satisfy their needs in the warmth, love, protection and support of the infantile man and is the most valuable asset. Other people, their experiences are not interesting at all. Such people are also inherent in the belief that only they are always right in everything. But when there are problems in the relationship, it usually sounds like not "I do not understand others" and "others do not understand me."

2. Dependence - in this case it is necessary to understand not life at the expense of other people, but inability or unwillingness to serve oneself. Usually such behavior is complained of by the wife - the husband is committed does not show initiative in the work on the house and, naturally, to serve himself for him is a huge problem. To wash, clean, wash dishes - it's not a man's business. There is also a spouse who will do it with pleasure and even thank you to tell. The murderer's argument is "I earn money and bring money to the family."

3. The game - it is her primary role among the other types of life. Really great is the era of the Internet, which provides a huge selection of entertainment and games that allow you not to "die" of boredom.

In fact, an infantile man is good for one day, that is, to play, have fun with him maybe and very well. Such people have the ability to have people with them. Your new familiar soul of the company, merry fellow? Most likely, this is the infantile man, who at the moment is in his own element.

4. Inability to make decisions. To make an important decision, it is necessary to have a well-developed willpower, but this is one of the components of a strong personality, and where this can come from such men? An adult is able to act contrary to fatigue, in spite of various difficulties, while relying only on his willpower. But for the child the words "I can not", "difficult" is a very weighty argument to avoid doing something. An infantile man tries to choose the least difficult path for himself.

When infantile people face reality, they prefer to hide behind invented rules, or they try to arrange complete anarchy while denying any restrictions that life establishes.

It is in such small things that the infantilism of men, and even women, is manifested. But to be fair, we all begin with this. Each of us reaches maturity in completely different times or vice versa never reaches. It depends on what kind of life we see. We meet it with all the difficulties and failures, or, conversely, it is like an eternal feast ... There is one factor through which an infantile man can not or does not want to cross. It is a pain. It is she who makes of many adults sometimes and before the due time. It's a pain from perfect mistakes, it's an eternal fear for loved ones and close people.

Not having the desire to accept this, infantile men are attracted to mature women, as if awakening their parental care. If they find their sacrifice (otherwise they do not) then they will forever get a strong support and the opportunity to be an eternal child. By the way, an infantile man and an infantile woman can never live a family, because any child needs parents.

What to do with such children? Well, perhaps it all depends on you. Do you want real life or be an eternal nanny? If you are tired of such a role, then the most correct thing to do is to quit it. Do not be afraid that without your guardianship such a person will be lost. By no means. For his age, these "moms" will suffice. But if you get peace of mind from such an alliance, then you should not change anything.

The most important thing should be your decision, how and with whom to live.