What is it like to be a virgin in 30 years?

Today we are getting closer to each other quite easily. But despite the fact that we easily discuss the number of our sexual partners, not many of us speak the truth when they are asked about the age at which they lost their virginity.

Let's look at the statistics

On average, the guys first happen usually at 16, whereas in girls it happens at 17. But we can confidently conclude that young people are not afraid of sexual experiments. By the way, in the 1950s the average age of entering into close relations with the first partner was 21 years, and in the 1980s - already 17 years.

However, not every one of us is ready for sexual life in adolescence. It is very difficult for some young people to make up their minds.

Probably all of us are familiar with the plot of the film "The 40-year-old virgin" (2005) with Steve Carrel in the title role. But what, interestingly, is it for women who have not had sex before reaching middle age?

The story of Rebecca

Rebecca Golden admits that she lost her virginity when she was 35.

At 33, Rebecca weighed 272 kilograms. At 34 she had gastric bypass surgery, and later - an operation to remove excess skin. And only at 35 years old Rebecca again decided to return to the world of dating and dating, which, she felt earlier, was forever closed to her.

Like every one of us, she just wanted to meet someone who would be more than her friend. And then she met Stephen, who became her first man.

Rebecca did not tell him that she was still a virgin when their relationship was just beginning. At 35 she felt that to admit such a strange and embarrassing. Like girls in adolescence, she had too many questions and fears. Perhaps, there were even more of them than girls-teenagers. How does it feel to have sex? Will it hurt the first time? Perhaps, any girl asks herself such questions, before everything happens for the first time, regardless of age.

Rebecca Golden is now

Rebecca and Stephen's relationship lasted two years. After the end of this novel, she learned a lot: she realized how strange online dating could be through the application of Plenty Of Fish, got acquainted with an easy version of BDSM, and she still had to be removed surgically by hymen. But she admits that her life has really changed radically. At her 38 Rebecca is glad that she finally found out all the joys that a woman can give sex.

"In fact, I'm happy now," our heroine admits. "Many women, when they learn my story, tell me about themselves and say that they also took a long time to finally decide. Although many of my friends still did it at a "normal" age. "

Decide on the first affinity with a man at 35 years, according to Rebecca, it is difficult. And yet she understands that at this age she was clearly aware of the kind of partner she needed, and she understood that she liked intelligent and slightly withdrawn men, the relationships with which she was inspired.

"I often remember my first time," Rebecca admits. "But still I believe that in a relationship with a person, physiology is not the most important component."