What are men afraid of? Phobias and fears of men

Phobias and human fears are normal. It would seem that representatives of the stronger sex should be rid of them at least partially, but it turns out that they often have more problems than women. So, what are men afraid of? What phrases should be avoided in conversation with them?

Sex

As a rule, the main fears of men are associated with sex.

First, nothing, according to the representative of the stronger sex, can not be more terrible than impotence. Sex is one of the spheres of male self-affirmation. Therefore, "quit the game" for the stronger sex of death is similar. Women are much more easily experiencing some failures related to sex. The man is afraid not only to lose man's solvency, but also worries that everyone will know about it.

Secondly, for men it is important to bring a woman to ecstasy in bed, so the phrase: "I feigned an orgasm" hits hard for self-esteem.

Representatives of the stronger sex in all love to be the first, so they like to become the first sexual partners for innocent girls. If they start a relationship with a lady who already had connections, it is important for men to be more clever in bed than all their predecessors. Any comparison with the former partner causes a whole barrage of resentment and resentment, because the worst thing to lose in the competition is the former.

Relations

Often a man is afraid of loving someone not to become vulnerable to this person. To yield to manipulation, even on the part of a beloved woman, to depend on it - this seems to them humiliating. Freedom is what's really valuable.

However, paradoxically this may sound, for all its desire for independence, a man still fears to remain without a woman. Sooner or later, any even bored bachelor will want to return in the evening to a comfortable house, feel safe there next to a caring friend. In addition, with age, the demand for beautiful ladies falls even among the most notorious ladies' man, and it is during this period of life you can feel yourself unnecessary, rejected, thrown to the side of life.

Another pronounced phobia is the fear of refusal. It does not matter what men say "no", be rejected and misunderstood - it's like seeing your name on the list of outsiders.

A responsibility

In society there is an opinion that a man is created in order to be responsible for his family, for himself and his actions, etc. But that's precisely the responsibility in the XXI century, the stronger sex avoid the most.

What words are men afraid of? The main fears are connected with the following phrases pronounced by the partner: "Let me introduce you to my parents", "I'm pregnant", "Let's get married", etc. Why does this happen? The answer is simple: after all, such steps require much.

Unplanned pregnancy or talk about a wedding is a painful topic for any man. A representative of the stronger sex understands that, having acquired a wife and children, he can not already lead the old way of life. Instead, they will have to provide for their family, protect it. Otherwise, he will face his own fear - the censure of society.

Unwillingness to take on additional responsibilities can be associated with heavy workloads in other areas of life. If the man is laid out completely at work (he is responsible for a big firm or company, for example), he can feel that he has not enough power to take care of the family, and in the role of husband and father he will not be able to look as brilliant as in the role Master of his craft and professional.

Treason

What are men afraid of as a fire? Treason from the partner. This fear appears from the very first days of close relations with a woman and is most often manifested in the form of jealousy.

Representatives of the stronger sex often change their darlings, but do not think how they thereby beat the partner's self-esteem. However, the idea of female treason is simply a storm of emotions.

First, adultery from the partner says that the man does not like her anymore, that she neglects him. In this there is logic: the psychology of ladies is such that for intimacy, a new partner should at least be cute, but as a maximum be a loved one. Secondly, the betrayal of a beloved woman is an occasion for a man to think that something is wrong in him. But the representatives of the stronger sex do not like to think about their shortcomings and they are not going to change either. Change is another male phobia.

Opinion of mother and friends

Public status, public opinion - this is important for men. But even more important is the opinion of the mother and friends.

A man needs his woman to get on well with his friends. Conflicts between the chosen one and friends, criticism and ridicule on the part of friends are unpleasant. A man wants his chosen one to be friendly with his entourage. This will make you proud that next to him is the best girl.

No less important is the mother's attitude to everything her son does. Many men are secretly afraid to disappoint their mother, no matter whether it is an unsuccessful choice of a life partner or something else.

Beautiful women

What are men afraid besides all of the above? Ironically, yet another phobia of the stronger sex is beautiful women. Even alpha males build relationships with beauties cautiously. This happens for one simple reason: one wrong step, and a self-confident girl can not only publicly ridicule him, but also refuse at all.

Also, men are frightened by the popularity enjoyed by a beautiful woman from other members of the stronger sex. If the competition is too big, it is better not to participate in the race, they think, because what could be worse than losing? When the choice is very large, the chances of liking slowly evaporate.

In addition, at any time, such a woman can leave, because she will always have a choice or a backup option. Beauty will not be satisfied with the small, will have to try hard to provide her with the life to which she is accustomed. In a word, a beautiful lady is simply a concentration of male fears.

Female competitors

What men are really afraid of is that their chosen one will compete with them. It does not matter in what sphere it will happen: in family life, in business, in a career.

Men hide behind stories that the smart lady is boring and, possibly, frigid. Enough, they say, the notorious female wisdom. But in fact, there is involved a common fear - the fear of failure, failure. And then, when the more successful male overtakes you at the turn, this is one thing, when a fragile lady is something like a blow below the belt.

Very painful is the question of income. Men are afraid of women who earn more. Next to such a self-sufficient lady, they are lost, because in fact they have taken away one of the main social roles - the role of the breadwinner.

In addition, the psyche of men constantly presses the need to compete with their own kind, if you have to compete with your other half, it becomes only an additional stress.

How to deal with male phobias?

How to cope with this flow of fears and phobias? In any case, it is necessary to do it together to representatives of both sexes.

What can women do? Treat with understanding to small fears of their chosen ones, concede in some situations. Women need to know what words are afraid of men, what attacks and what actions on their part they are afraid of, and if possible avoid this.

"Salvation of drowning people is the work of the drowning themselves", so no matter how wise a woman is, if a man does not want to work on himself, he will not get rid of any fears. And no matter how much the representative of the weaker sex is inferior, or kept herself within the bounds of what is permissible, he will still find something to catch on. Many things in this life you do not need to be afraid, you just need to expand your comfort zone, your horizons and leave yourself the right to make a mistake.