Unequal Marriage: For Love Or According to Calculation?

How many lives so many destinies. But, nevertheless, everyone is looking for their one and only half. And it happens that people find reflection of their soul in another person, despite a decent age difference. Most often, society condemns an unequal marriage, speaking of the discrepancy of interests, financial position or commercialism. Nevertheless, the number of such marriages is growing.

Traditionally it is believed that a man should be older. And to some extent this is true. At the same time, the big age difference is relatively relative. In different countries, this is treated differently, and somewhere large is 10 years, and somewhere 30 is quite normal. The fact how much the difference in age between a man and a woman affects the relationship in marriage, it is difficult to judge by the side. But it is believed that this can have several positive moments, contributing to a long and happy marriage.

First, the life experience of a man is as useful as possible for the creation of a future family. After all, a man is considered a logical creation, and a woman is an emotional one. As a result, when solving some extraordinary situations, very often they say: "Oh, it's good that my husband was cold-blooded and figured out everything." It can not be said that this is true for 100%, but in most cases it is exactly so.

Secondly, due to the fact that a man is older, then, as a rule, he has already established his life, was formed as a person and is more emotionally stable, which is especially important for the creation of a strong family. In this case, unequal marriage is practically insured against family storms and thunderstorms.

Psychologists have calculated that the most optimal age difference is when a man is older than a woman for up to eight years, because girls in their psychological development outrun young men for five years. This applies mainly to fairly young couples under the age of 30 years.

The most critical society refers to marriages, when a man is older than a woman for more than 20 years. Such marriages are considered unstable. Most often they are a marriage of convenience, especially when the age difference is too great. The people around are sure that sooner or later the wife will start to change her husband, and the issue of procreation can become very acute. Moreover, many couples live in such marriages very happily, finding for themselves their own formula for love.

Marriages, when a woman older than a man is most ambiguous. Attitudes toward them are often sharply negative, even when a woman is only 2-3 years old. And what can I say, when this difference is 15-20 years.

But this unequal marriage has its advantages. A woman enters such a marriage for various reasons, but in any case, in an effort to preserve a marriage, she begins to pay more attention to herself, and just gets younger just before her eyes. From the height of their life experience, they make less mistakes that are characteristic of young couples. At the same time, men enter into such marriages only or by great love or by naked calculation. In any case, they too tend to preserve their marriage, which makes such unions, despite the opinion of others, sufficiently stable.

Of great importance is the difference in age between a man and a woman when they talk about the physiological and psychological component of marriage. To this it is necessary to be ready morally both sides. Some of the young man's unrestrained impulses may slightly upset the woman who has formed, and in the same way the authoritarian behavior of a woman may slightly reduce the bar of self-esteem. In any case, going to an unequal marriage should be aware that in the first place this decision of two. And if in spite of public opinion this step was taken, then the couple should be sincere with each other and do not forget about trust

As statistics show, the big difference in the age of marriage is not an obstacle to a happy union. But such unions require more attention, both from men and from women. Only they themselves are able to maintain a harmonious relationship, which is the basis of any strong marriage.