The first school love

Most adolescents in school age meet the first and, it seems to them, true love. Adults often pretend that they do not understand this, that it's ridiculous to take seriously the childish stupidity. However, each man and woman themselves also experienced this feeling, but hid it deep in the heart. Perhaps this is because this love was unrequited.

Sometimes it's not easy to believe in love, especially if the subject of your sigh is twice as old. Strange, but it is in such people and fall in love with schoolchildren and experience the purest and true love. It can be teachers in an educational institution, friends of my mother or neighbors on the porch. Rather, such adoration is not even easy to call love - it is a worship of a fictitious ideal.

But anyway, and this feeling becomes stronger with each passing day, in the head only this person - and no longer to textbooks and lessons. The mood changes several times a day: it's so bad that life is not nice, but it's so good that the soul just sings! Sometimes the love is interrupted by a bitter disappointment, and the immature mentality of the teenager is not always able to cope with this test. The terrible end of relationships, sometimes started, and more often - platonic, maybe even suicide. That's what's worth fighting for parents and lovers around.

However, the first school love usually remains in the soul forever. You can only love a man for a couple of weeks, but for some reason he will occupy a place in your heart all his life. Still, school love rarely grows into a family relationship.

What should parents do in this situation? More often than not, they just start to panic that their thirteen-year-old daughter has got carried away by a thirty-year-old man, and try in every possible way to stop her attempts to talk about him. In this case, the girl starts talking about it with everyone in a row, but not with her parents. This is fraught with the fact that she may have problems after her enthusiasm is over: there will be conversations in the district, which can then be picked up by bad gossip. Therefore, if you notice that your child was carried away by someone at a rather early age, do not leave him alone with his experiences, but on the contrary, try to help and support him. Believe me, such hobbies pass quickly, and you will laugh together afterwards all together remembering those sleepless nights and bitter tears!

Usually school love passes quickly, though, each case should be considered separately. If an open and sociable person is in love, it will be easy for him to know that the object of desire is occupied. And no matter how painful it may be, he will find the strength not to show this to others. This is how school love gradually fades, and life becomes the same.

It is much more difficult for those who are introverts, that is, those who do not like communication. They usually all this pain perenashivayut in themselves, because of what changes and the nature, often far from the best. If you are a parent and know that your child is secretive enough, you will have to find an approach to it yourself, because even with you it will be hard for him to share. Try to just listen to it and often be interested in them, no matter how busy you are.

For some children, school love lasts for several years. They, of course, can get carried away by another passion during this time, but always remain true to one single person. And there are cases (rare enough), when the first love lives in the heart forever. This is perhaps the most responsive and benevolent people who know how hard it is to be rejected, so they let the person who loves them into their lives.

Each person has his own psychology, his feelings, his perception of the world. It's great if the first feeling leaves a light and joy in the soul, memories of it do not degrade and make you blush, but pleasantly caress the soul. Therefore, you need to be able to act gently in cases when, from the height of age, a wise adult understands the impotence of any relationship so as not to inflict an indelible emotional wound on the adolescent.