Suffering as a part of a person.

Hello, reader. I want to share with you my thoughts on such a topic as suffering. Probably, each of us at least once in my life, experiencing moral or physical suffering, asked the question: "Why is this all for me?". But no one ever thought about the essence of suffering. I will try to explain my idea ..

EhY believe that suffering is necessary, it is an integral part of a person. Experiencing suffering, a person goes to a new level of self-development. I'll give a banal example: a guy goes to the gym. And one day he thinks: "Come on, I'm so tired, and still there to deal with. I will not go today," and what is the result? Yes, for a short period of time he gave himself pleasure - he rested, lay on the couch and did nothing, but what next? He does not develop from this. On the other hand, if he went to the gym, he would be tired, but it would make sense, his muscles would grow. Similarly, with the spiritual development of man, in order to develop, it is necessary to overcome, experience any suffering.

A little deviate from the topic. I have a friend, he recently broke up with a girl. And a couple of days ago he came to me and said: "I'm sick, I need help. Yes, I sometimes cry at night, but I'm not afraid to admit it." You know, there's a type of people who say, "Oh , come on, forget it." Forget about this suffering. " But why should I forget about them and try to hide, if I feel bad? I better "suffer" them now than it will accumulate, and then not all can cope with this accumulated. People are afraid of their suffering, I think the most important thing is not to try to escape from them.

Sometimes a person can not decide for himself, and he needs help, so to speak, "push the bridge". Also bring a banal example: a drug addict. He knows that if he stops taking drugs, he will have to suffer, and, naturally, he can not decide for himself, but realizes that it is necessary for him. I say everything is rather exaggerated, but I hope that my idea will be so clear. Here it is necessary to "push" it.

Another very important point. There is a difference between compassion and pity. In no case is it possible to completely help a person get out of his suffering, so you are doing a "disservice" - this is pity. In this case, a person simply gets used to help and then simply is unable to cope with himself. It is very important that he learns to do this. But there is a downside. It is also necessary not to miss the moment when a person really needs help when he already hints at some phrases when he reads in his eyes: "Come on, now I need your help, come on." This is the real art - to really catch the golden mean, to catch the moment when a person needs your help.

In my life there was a period when I nearly got suicidal, and if they did not help me then, perhaps I would not have written about it here, maybe I would have really committed suicide. I do not know what would have happened. Usually such people emerge from nowhere, you are not looking specifically out on the street, you do not meet them in social networks, they just appear and drag you out of there when you really need it. Sometimes these people do not even exist in reality, they can be characters of films, books - it does not matter. The main thing is that they should be.

Thank you for your attention, reader. All the best to you. And may you always have people who could help.