Childhood masturbation: the norm or the deviation?

Children's masturbation is a rather delicate topic, embarrassing many parents. Every mom needs to know that sooner or later she will have to face her child's masturbation. By three years of life, the kid begins to realize himself as a human being and to distinguish from the environment. It is at this age that the boy begins to understand that the structure of his body is somewhat different from that of girls. To spy out the differences, he can usually in kindergarten. The theory that children's masturbation is harmful is completely unjustified today. The question is how often this happens and how old the child is.

The theory that only boys are engaged in masturbation is erroneous. A boy by the age of four or five really begins to pay much attention to his penis. Sometimes mom can notice how he touches his sexual organ, rubbing it and twitching. Children's masturbation Radically different from an adult. A child can play with his genitals, understand that it is nice, not fully aware of the mechanism of his actions. Masturbation of an adult has a clear ultimate goal - getting an orgasm.

Girls can show interest in their bodies on a par with boys. Excessive sexual activity in them can be expressed in the form of stroking the clitoris, squeezing and unclenching the hips, thrusting into the vagina of various objects. The result of this behavior may be injury. Therefore, mothers should watch how their daughter learns her body.

Many parents relate to the fact that their child masturbates, very wary. All their fears are based on simple ignorance. Children's masturbation Does not carry any threat to the child's mental or physical health. But rather, on the contrary, it helps to relieve tension, promotes relaxation and prepares the child for a future adult sexual life. Parental prohibitions, attempts to shame the child, tell him that masturbation is something terrible and unpleasant, can cause much more harm to his psyche. It is known that many people whose parents forbade them to masturbate as children, experience difficulties in adult sexual life. Sex for them is something shameful, they less than others get satisfaction from it. Unfortunately, the parental stereotypes that have been hammered once into the child's head remain in it for life.

If you notice the deep concentration of your baby on the process of masturbation, try to distract him, but not with the help of a ban and an attempt to shame. Children who do not have enough attention from adults masturbate more often than others. Take care of your child, play with him, go for a walk, go in for sports, read to him at night a fairy tale. Every parent should know that children's masturbation is not a deviation, rather, on the contrary, it indicates the normal mental and physical development of the child.

What is harmful for masturbation for an older child? Unlike a child, a teenager understands the meaning of the word "masturbation". His actions already have a certain purpose - getting an orgasm. As practice shows, masturbation in adolescence can cause serious damage to the child's psyche. This concerns mostly boys. The harm of adolescent masturbation consists, first of all, in its full accessibility in comparison with a full sexual intercourse. To engage in masturbation of a teenager can push peers, in paints describing the details of their already begun sexual life. Masturbation in this case seems to the child a manifestation of adulthood, while it does not bring him real satisfaction, he considers it a shameful occupation, begins to withdraw into himself. Help in this situation can either visit a psychologist, or a frank conversation with a closer of the parents. Most Russian teenagers are not available either. As a result, a person enters into adulthood, carrying a lot of complexes and unresolved children's problems in his soul.