Is a serious man happy?

Hundreds of pages, articles, books have been written about the dangers of eternal anxiety and the use of laughter. Nevertheless, we remain convinced that only a serious person can be successful. The one who walks in a classic suit is always neat, wears glasses, rides an expensive foreign car, never is late and does not play the fool. But is it really so? What is the harm of exceptional seriousness?

First of all, let's define what we mean by this quality. A serious person does not neglect anything - no important things, no principles, no trifles. He is sure that everything in life has meaning, purpose and value. He is confident that everything can be kept under control, and chance can happen except in a natural disaster. He does not like to spend precious minutes on trifles. Time is money. A serious person is incredulous, he checks and controls not only himself, but also others. He seldom relaxes, because he believes that he should always be ready. He usually has a high level of anxiety. But is a serious person happy? That's the problem, that he does not know how to stop and enjoy success. He is often demanding, and any result does not satisfy him, because "it was possible to do better." No, of course, it is impossible to completely ignore the responsible attitude to life. However, for a loved one a very serious person is most often a punishment. It combines pessimism, fatalism, and hyper-lightness syndrome. Therefore, such people are prone to various diseases, especially the cardiovascular system, as well as the gastrointestinal tract.

How to help such people? They should learn to relax and relax. And do it without feeling guilty, without constant monitoring of the situation. All kinds of auto-training and psychological seminars help you learn to treat life with great confidence and optimism. A good role can play and laughter. Of course, a serious young man, aimed at a great future, will find it foolish to waste time watching comedies or just entertainment. But it is important to understand that you can not take the entire burden of responsibility for yourself and others, for all the things that need to be done. Sometimes it's just time to go with the flow. A lot of energy and energy takes from us what does not really depend on our will. A sense of humor in any situation is a better assistant than hypertrophied responsibility. Even more: if the desire to succeed at any cost is too great, it can suppress all creative impulses, paralyze energy.

The person, aimed at the result, forgets about the process itself. He neglects simple everyday pleasures and pleasures. So, getting to the top of the mountain, with a high probability, he will not be able to rejoice in this success either. After all, all the energy was spent to achieve the goal. After him, devastation may occur, which often turns into depression. Otherwise, this is called burnout syndrome. It is worth constantly reminding yourself that you can not remake all your affairs, you can not earn all your money, but life is the only one. And learn to experience pleasure.