Inferiority complex and its overcoming

In most cases, the inferiority complex appears in early childhood and then persists for a lifetime, as well as children's fears, which are already difficult for an adult to struggle with. Carelessly said word to the child in his presence about appearance, abilities, character traits can become a cornerstone, on which a strong inferiority complex will later be built. Sometimes just one word is enough, but imagine the situation when it happens several times a day and lasts more than one year? It is not surprising that a person even gets used to this state of deficiency and uncertainty to some extent, and it is easier for him to leave everything as is, not to struggle, not to lose the small thing that he has at the moment.

On the other hand, it is the inferiority complex that pushes many people to achieve new heights in career, education, art and so on. What then is bad in it? Whatever heights a person does not achieve, he will never be satisfied with himself, and therefore he is unable to experience the fullness of happiness and pleasure from new achievements and successes. And why then do we need these achievements?

Only that person is happy and satisfied with his life, which is guided by his desires. Here there is a very important point: one can not perceive one's desires and actions under the pressure of an inferiority complex, as your real true desires. To understand this, it is enough to ask yourself the question: "If it were not for my inferiority complex, would I want to do it or achieve this?". Of course, it is possible that at this point you will answer "yes", but this will be a biased opinion, since you can not imagine your life without this complex. Everything is known in comparison, and you have nothing to compare with, so the conclusion suggests itself. However, this does not mean that it is correct!

There is another important point - a person simply may not know that he has a complex or persistently try not to recognize this fact: "Do I have an inferiority complex?" Nonsense! It can not be! ". The fact is that only a few are free from complexes, the vast majority of people suffer from them in varying degrees. Answer honestly the following questions:

Do I like my appearance?
Do I think I'm smart?
I like communicating with people?
I love myself?
Do I respect myself?

If you answered these questions negatively, then there is an inferiority complex! But understanding the problem and recognizing that it exists - 80% of its solution, if not all 95%.

The next step is to understand why the inferiority complex has arisen, and overcoming it should be your goal. Whoever imposed this complex on you, wherever it came from, the real reason is that you do not like yourself. This simple truth is known to everyone, but we persistently continue to bypass it. How can you love, if you do not love yourself? Who will respect you if you consider yourself unworthy of respect? Who will have the desire to communicate with you if you yourself despise yourself and consider yourself a nonentity? If you are against yourself, why do you expect understanding and love from others?

The complexes must be taken seriously, they can not be ignored or pretended that they do not exist. It is they who lead a person to stress, despair and even suicide. Without solving the problem, you only exacerbate it.

Remember, you are a unique person! You are an amazing creature, your beauty is unique and perfect! To love yourself is natural, and it is not about selfishness, but about respecting oneself as a Person capable of loving, doing good and giving joy to others. You are a part of this world, and without you it would not be so beautiful! You have one purpose - to be happy!

In conclusion, remember one famous saying: "Treat people as you would like them to treat you." Paraphrase it: "Treat yourself as much as you would like others to treat you." And when you understand the difference, the whole world will open up before you!