I hate my husband. What to do?

In family life , everything happens, and sometimes love grows into hatred, because, as the saying goes: "From love to hate, one step." Sometimes, when the phrase "I hate my husband" turns in my head, many women start to blame themselves for this and feel how marriage is destroyed. In fact, in such emotions there is nothing lethal, the main thing is to overcome them in time and then the family happiness will be found again.

There is no single and unequivocal advice on how to overcome hatred, but there are many ways to solve this problem. If such a problem as "I hate my husband" begins to disturb daily, it is worthwhile to sit down and calmly weigh everything. We need to determine the reason for this feeling, and then try to find a solution to it, because there are no hopeless situations , if there is a desire to understand the problem.

But still, there are some general situations, because of which wives hate their husbands. It is worth considering them in order to try to overestimate the personal attitude to the situation.

1. It is always worth remembering that a man is a child, and he remains so always. Some men remain at the age of 5, and few manage to grow to 16 years of age. A woman is a being that grows up all her life, changing her interests, values, rules, etc. If the husband does not know how to react to what his wife is doing, it is useless to hate him, because children sometimes can not show everything that is inside them. But they are not hated for this, but are trained. Perhaps you should try to teach your husband all over again?

2. Sometimes, hating his chosen one, a woman makes his life more comfortable and from this her hatred grows even more, and sometimes reaches the limit. The husband can, on the contrary, try to evoke these emotions, so that he is more comfortable. Therefore, we need to weigh everything carefully. It happens that a woman herself becomes the cause of her own hatred, absolutely not understanding this!

3. The phrase "I hate my husband" often sounds after his betrayal, because all women know that men are polygamous creatures, but as soon as they become wives, they stop recognizing it. In general, family betrayal on the part of the strong half is a two-fold event. If a man did everything so that his wife did not learn anything about it, but she accidentally sniffed everything, there's no point silently hating. Marriage will be destroyed not because of treason, but because of the hatred that is hiding. It is better to either dot all the "i", or to come up with your own solution of the situation. If the situation is such that a man has changed and knows that his wife is aware, then it is impossible to hate him, especially since his pride will grow in this way. It is worth finding either a way to solve the problem, or a way of revenge.

4. If all of the above reflections did not help to get rid of the idea of "I hate my husband", it is worth continuing to think and compare the facts. Sometimes hatred is everyday, and it's the most stupid. The husband can take a favorite place by the TV, at the computer, drink from his wife's favorite cup, etc. Yes, no matter how primitive it may sound, but such petty situations cause serious negative emotions, and if it has already come to realize that hatred is based on everyday life, you need to immediately fix yourself, switching to some bright and positive moments of family life.

5. "I hate my husband, but I love" - how often women catch themselves on such thoughts. And if hatred is at this stage, then you should not worry at all. Just in a relationship a small crisis, perhaps because the husband does not pay the same attention as before, does not say compliments or does not give flowers. Do not despair, you just need to resume romantic relationships!

But if the thought "I hate my husband" does not leave my head from morning till night and no solutions are found, it is worthwhile to turn to a psychologist or tell her husband about it. Maybe then life will change for the better or in general will change dramatically!