Difficult teenagers: who is to blame.

These people do not consider anyone's opinion, they rude and rude to their relatives, they listen to unbearable music and dress up, disregarding the norms of morality. They have problems not only in study and communication, but also with drugs, alcohol, promiscuous sex. These people never repent of their deeds and can bring a normal adequate person to a nervous breakdown. They are difficult teenagers.

Unfortunately, now many families know firsthand what it is. Education difficult teenager is complicated by the fact that they do not want to listen to parents, teachers and just indifferent people. Discourses and pathetic attempts to influence such children fail and do not bring any result. Difficult teenagers have their own opinion about everything, they do not know the feeling of shame, and they are considered only with their desires. Unfortunately, they control their parents, and not vice versa, as it should be in a civilized world. And yet, more recently, these children were the pride and support of their parents, they were loving and kind, fair and honest. Why does this happen in their lives and what kind of work with difficult teenagers can bring at least some results?

Parents often do not think that they are responsible for the fact that their glorious and sweet child suddenly turned into an immoral creature. Difficult teenagers become those, first of all, because of mistakes in their upbringing. When parents, making demands to the child, rush to one or another extreme. That is, they either allow a lot and do not require anything, or, on the contrary, they do not allow much, but they require a lot. In addition, parents should understand that the child needs to communicate commensurate with his age. It is not necessary to consider him constantly small and nothing understanding or an adult with life experience.

Often, moms and dads, in pursuit of material well-being, forget about the warmth and friendly relations that the child is waiting for. In this case, he has nothing left but to spit on everyone and everything. You must necessarily be consistent in education. The family should have clear rules for praise and blame. And mom and dad ideally propagandize one model of education, and do not pull the blanket each to their side.

Difficult teenagers want to receive parental attention, which they were deprived of, or, on the contrary, received it so much that now they are all few and little. These children show with their whole appearance and behavior that they have the right to their own opinion and way of life.

You can not surround the children with excessive attention and make family idols of them, as well as not give them time at all, to welcome in the family polite cool relations. Often difficult teenagers turn away from the whole world because of constant conflicts at home, parents in this case can not find a common language among themselves, they are constantly unhappy with each other.

Children are mirrors of parental errors. To drag a child to a psychologist and hope that he will cope with the problem himself is pointless. We need to realize our mistakes and tune in to work together to restore normal, friendly and respectful relationships with children. In no case can you shift all responsibility for the child's complex behavior to him alone. It is often very difficult to make yourself believe that your son or your daughter has become unsociable fellows because of your mistakes. But as soon as you manage to do this, a professional psychologist will be able to save not only the teenager, but your entire family. Be sure to contact a professional, do not expect that your exhortations and moralizing will be able to change something. It is necessary to change the model of relations in the family, and then the communication of parents and children can become sincere, sincere and honest.