How to behave if you are surrounded by boors?

The main force of rudeness and rudeness is that they are contagious. These unnecessary, but ubiquitous, emotional viruses are transmitted from one person to another, for this sometimes there is only one word or even a glance. No matter where it comes from - from passers-by on the street, passengers in transport, sellers to a local supermarket or close friends, there are several excellent ways to increase your immunity to rudeness and rudeness.

Remember that rudeness is rarely directed to you personally

The behavior of others rarely depends on us and is even more rarely directed at us. Especially in case of rudeness. There are not many people in the world who wake up in the morning with the thought: "Today, I will certainly abuse my neighbor from below." More often than not, harsh words and rude gestures are a mechanism for resisting the same coarseness on the part of others or the result of weakness and insecurity.

The most common reason for nahamam neighbor is a chain reaction. How often unexpected rudeness made each of us lose control over themselves and "break" on others. But it is important to always remember that our behavior depends on ourselves, and not on neighbors or a rough policlinic who do not know how to behave. We can not control the behavior of other people, but we have absolute control over our thoughts and actions. Is this a comforting thought?

Choose the opposite reaction

To interrupt the "chain reaction", when you feel unjustified anger, you need to stop and force yourself to do something completely opposite impulse rude. This is not easy, but after the first minute it becomes easier, and if you force yourself to smile at this, then negative emotions completely disappear.

Do not take your reluctance or inability to be rude to others as a sign of weakness. Refusing to go on about negative emotions, you are defending your psychological and emotional balance. Following this simple rule, eventually you will notice that you have developed an absolute immunity to rudeness and rudeness. It is much better to sow good, light, eternal instead of discord.

Perseverance should not be rude

There are times when positive mood and kind words are not enough, because boorish behavior and rudeness are not always limited to words only. Perhaps it is better not to kindle a dispute if someone has passed without a queue or squeezed into the stream of cars, but there are situations when someone's rudeness must be answered with firmness.

For example, a colleague has written down his mistake on you, and now you are responsible for it. In such a situation, ignoring the problem or a couple of kind words will not provide a solution. However, the reciprocal rudeness will only aggravate relations in the team and spoil the mood for everyone. To think up your own little meanness "for spite" or to teach you a lesson will bring you moral satisfaction for no more than an hour, then you will feel even worse. In such difficult situations, you should proceed as follows:

• Tell the abuser directly what you think about his deed and how he influenced you professionally and emotionally.
• Distant from the person who hurt you.
• If these actions do not convince the offender to change the situation, inform the management about the incident, keeping calm and dry, business-like tone. This is not weakness and not paganism - it's your right to protect yourself and your professional activities.

Use psychological tricks

If you can hardly hold back the rudeness, try one or more of the following tricks:

• Imagine that you embrace a person who has been rude to you. Try to sympathize with him and imagine what could make him behave this way. This action will instantly reduce your negative attitude towards the person.
• Give a clear definition of your emotions. Objectively evaluate each of the emotions that overwhelm you, name it and find the cause. This exercise will calm you down and shift the focus from the rude person to you personally.
• Find in yourself a small child and talk to him. Succumbing to the external effects of negative emotions, we largely behave like children raising a cry about and without. Growing up, we stop crying because of the unbought toy because our perspective is expanding, we understand - now, besides the toy there are other important things, much more important things. When you are ready to be rude to someone, talk to your inner child and show him how much this anger is insignificant compared to other things and emotions.

Quite a bit of the ability to calm yourself and look at the situation from the outside can help us maintain our composure and emotional balance in the face of the most causeless and offensive rudeness.